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Yeah, but I think OC’s point is the first coworker isn’t impossible to deal with if you treat the first interaction with care. If you get an off putting respon

by awb 5y ago

Yeah, but I think OC’s point is the first coworker isn’t impossible to deal with if you treat the first interaction with care. If you get an off putting response, instead of hammering them with facts and trying to prove them wrong, maybe back up a minute and try to uncover what’s really going on. Maybe you haven’t done your job on telling them why X is important to them or the company. If I know how important something is, I don’t mind doing a little extra leg work to understand what you’re trying to tell me. Personally it seems kind of rude to me to ask someone to review something that’s disjointed or missing info and expect them to search for the missing pieces. Most people I know are fairly busy at their jobs and you’re adding one more thing on their plate and you’re not even their boss. If it’s really that important to you, take the time to communicate it to me clearly and simply. Otherwise, it’s like you’re passive aggressively asking me to do your work for you without giving me a good reason why I should stop what I’m doing and help you.

motoxpro 5y ago
Again, this situation is when you ARE doing all of those things, treating the interaction with care, etc. "Personally it seems kind of rude to me to ask someone to review something that’s disjointed or missing info and expect them to search for the missing pieces. Most people I know are fairly busy at their jobs and you’re adding one more thing on their plate and you’re not even their boss." I feel like you're missing the point, this was just an example of someone who has taken a look and has a real question vs someone who hasn't looked at all. Of course, none of us are perfect and we will always miss things which means there will always be questions. This doesn't mean something is disjointed or missing info on purpose or maliciously. I would turn the table and say it's rude to come in, see a small mistake and assume the person didn't put effort into what they showed you. Not saying that this doesn't happen, just saying the article was about a situation where the person DID put effort in and did their best and is having to say, essentially, "Here is the link to the documentation that is in the exact place that it is supposed to be that you chose to ignore"

by awb 5y ago

motoxpro 5y ago

Again, this situation is when you ARE doing all of those things, treating the interaction with care, etc. "Personally it seems kind of rude to me to ask someone to review something that’s disjointed or missing info and expect them to search for the missing pieces. Most people I know are fairly busy at their jobs and you’re adding one more thing on their plate and you’re not even their boss." I feel like you're missing the point, this was just an example of someone who has taken a look and has a real question vs someone who hasn't looked at all. Of course, none of us are perfect and we will always miss things which means there will always be questions. This doesn't mean something is disjointed or missing info on purpose or maliciously. I would turn the table and say it's rude to come in, see a small mistake and assume the person didn't put effort into what they showed you. Not saying that this doesn't happen, just saying the article was about a situation where the person DID put effort in and did their best and is having to say, essentially, "Here is the link to the documentation that is in the exact place that it is supposed to be that you chose to ignore"