So, sure--there are people who will drill you down into an abyss of perceived inadequacy because of something totally unrelated. It may be that they don't like

So, sure--there are people who will drill you down into an abyss of perceived inadequacy because of something totally unrelated. It may be that they don't like you. It could also be that they're just having difficulty communicating their values. I find it productive in these situations to take a step back and ask a question along the lines of, "What are we trying to solve here?" I.e. let's cut through the minutiae and call out what the actual problem is. Once we've done that, let's work on solving that.