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I've noticed this as a general pattern, when someone doesn't like plan X or doesn't want to do X, but the reason they give is bogus. And when you point out why
by Uhhrrr 5y ago
I've noticed this as a general pattern, when someone doesn't like plan X or doesn't want to do X, but the reason they give is bogus. And when you point out why it's bogus, they offer a series of other bogus reasons. Sometimes they are ultimately persuaded, and sometimes they land on a real reason, and sometimes they just wind up saying they just don't like it.
But no matter what, the series of bogus reasons (bogus German: vielenscheingründe) is a waste of everyone's time, and I wonder why people do it. Are they just doing it to stall while they wait for the hamster wheel in their head to offer up their real objection?
- justin_oaks 5y agoI've seen this with people in my life. Generally, I think it's because people have an emotional reaction and cook up some reason to justify their feelings. They may have no idea why they feel the way they do. Even the people who pride themselves on being "logical" do it too. Other than that, people can also do it because the real reason is objectionable and it would make them look or feel bad to reveal it. I've come to the conclusion that there are lots of times you'll never get the real reason for someone's choices/behavior directly from them.