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If you're planning a family, do that asap. If you're 37, any child born now would mean you're going to be 60 when they're 23. Assuming you live that long. Not h

If you're planning a family, do that asap. If you're 37, any child born now would mean you're going to be 60 when they're 23. Assuming you live that long. Not having parents in your 20s and 30s is a setup for societal failure. Nobody is prepared for a baby, but if you have money, a place to live, you're better off than most.

toomuchtodo 5y ago
Terrible advice. OP needs a life raft before an anchor.
- Auracle 5y ago
  People put off making babies too long now. Especially at OP’s age, every year greatly increases the chances of things like autism. A pregnancy carried by a woman 35 or older is considered a geriatric pregnancy for a reason. Plus everyone expects to pull the goalie and you’ll have instant luck. My wife and are were both healthy and in our late twenties when we started trying. 3+ years of that and a round of IVF later and I finally have my first baby at 33.
  - toomuchtodo 5y ago
    Better to not have kids you can't afford than have kids you can't afford and be stuck in a poor, drawn out outcome just for the sake of having kids. If you can afford them, by all means, have them. But if not, think hard about the suffering you'll suffer for a long time. You should absolutely put off having babies (or not have them) if your life situation doesn't accommodate taking on that burden and cost.
    - Tabular-Iceberg 5y ago
      Is this really a serious concern in today’s job market for software developers?
      - toomuchtodo 5y ago
        I was unaware we were scoping advice solely to high earning not yet wealthy ("HENRYs") employees. I give this same advice to everyone. Kids are a luxury good, not a necessity.
        newaccount74 5y ago
        Everyone has the right to have children, we don't need gatekeepers telling other people whether they're rich enough to have kids.
- newaccount74 5y ago
  That may be good advise for a 17 year old, but at 37 you really shouldn't waste time if you want kids.

toomuchtodo 5y ago

Terrible advice. OP needs a life raft before an anchor.

Auracle 5y ago
People put off making babies too long now. Especially at OP’s age, every year greatly increases the chances of things like autism. A pregnancy carried by a woman 35 or older is considered a geriatric pregnancy for a reason. Plus everyone expects to pull the goalie and you’ll have instant luck. My wife and are were both healthy and in our late twenties when we started trying. 3+ years of that and a round of IVF later and I finally have my first baby at 33.
- toomuchtodo 5y ago
  Better to not have kids you can't afford than have kids you can't afford and be stuck in a poor, drawn out outcome just for the sake of having kids. If you can afford them, by all means, have them. But if not, think hard about the suffering you'll suffer for a long time. You should absolutely put off having babies (or not have them) if your life situation doesn't accommodate taking on that burden and cost.
  - Tabular-Iceberg 5y ago
    Is this really a serious concern in today’s job market for software developers?
    - toomuchtodo 5y ago
      I was unaware we were scoping advice solely to high earning not yet wealthy ("HENRYs") employees. I give this same advice to everyone. Kids are a luxury good, not a necessity.
      - newaccount74 5y ago
        Everyone has the right to have children, we don't need gatekeepers telling other people whether they're rich enough to have kids.
newaccount74 5y ago
That may be good advise for a 17 year old, but at 37 you really shouldn't waste time if you want kids.