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Can you elaborate?

• FeepingCreature 5y ago
  Having fun and relaxing as a social technique is enormously improved by being able to read social cues so that you can behave in a way that also allows others to have fun and relax. Without that, you just end up talking about some niche interest that nobody cares about for five hours in a row, not letting anyone get a word in edgewise, and are never invited back. To an autistic person, I would give the advice to not have fun and relax, but to very deliberately try to shape the conversation so that an equitable level of having fun and relaxation is had by the participants. This is a skill that can be built, and as one builds the skill, its presence will make it a lot easier to have fun and relax because you can be confident that you can estimate your interest budget accurately. At any rate, barring a lot of experience you should assume that everybody else is communicating by the most subtle and illegible of cues and almost ignore any object-level content they say about interestingness. Compare this SMBC https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/reviews https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/reviews As an additional data source, run conscious game theory to determine what people's reaction should be from first principles, then give maybe 30% credence that this is what their actual opinion is, no matter what they say.