I know couple of chefs at high end restaurants and they are good friends. They are also normal people and I don't think they would work at places that treat les

I know couple of chefs at high end restaurants and they are good friends. They are also normal people and I don't think they would work at places that treat less fortunate people (say can only do something like this once a year, if ever) without respect. As long as you treat the waitstaff well and aren't loud and overbearing they love to have you in and enjoy the fine cooking. Just don't bring three screaming toddlers and leave $5 tip and you'll be fine if anyone is curious but hasn't gone on a food adventure. Myself I came from a poor upbringing and was pretty nervous about my first few high end restaurants as a 20 something with "new money".