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An excellent, thoughtful article. People often don't realize how easy it is to make inroads if you're humble and genuinely interested in the other person. The o
by tibbar 5y ago
An excellent, thoughtful article. People often don't realize how easy it is to make inroads if you're humble and genuinely interested in the other person. The other day someone cold-emailed me to talk about some old blog post, we had a nice discussion, and then they asked for tips on applying to my employer. And I was happy to give a referral. (Was the person's interest in the blogpost secretly mercenary? Maybe, but it doesn't matter -- they were friendly and respectful, and like most tech companies, we _want_ people to apply.)
- neilv 5y ago> (Was the person's interest in the blogpost secretly mercenary? Maybe, but it doesn't matter -- they were friendly and respectful, and like most tech companies, we _want_ people to apply.) It'd matter to me. In some circles it's understood as acceptable in business networking; in other circles, it's insincere and manipulative.
- sdoering 5y agoI strongly agree. If I had OPs experience I would have felt manipulated and would not have referred the person. In the end I think the interpretation of the experience depends on the world view and the view of people. I don't like people in general. I think (most) people are manipulative, egocentric and in only for themselves. To most people I met I was a means to an end. So I stop. I try (often failing) to not be - and as far as possible not make myself - a mean to someone's end. But with different life experiences I could imagine seeing people differently and assuming positive intend. This would ensure a different interpretation of such encounters.