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> no reason This is a big unsubstantiated implication you're making here. I fully agree that there is too much of a stigma against living with your family (tho
by coolso 5y ago
> no reason
This is a big unsubstantiated implication you're making here. I fully agree that there is too much of a stigma against living with your family (though it has improved greatly over the past 10-15 years as surveys and studies have shown) in the US, but there are plenty of reasons to move out. This is coming from someone, by the way, who was convinced he'd probably stay living at home until 30 or so. I eventually realized it was holding me back.
Yes, relatively speaking it cost me a ton of money to move out, and I'd have a lot more money in my bank account right now if I didn't, but none of that money was "wasted" and I wouldn't trade it for anything or go back and do anything differently. It changed my life immensely, for the better.
I love my family but no matter how much you love your family there is no substitute for having a place of your own, and having the freedom and privacy to live your life the way you like, operate under your own rules, under your preferred hours, etc.
You're right, many people may not be ready for this, and living at home shouldn't be stigmatized - though perhaps parents who don't raise children who are ready for it at a reasonable age should be stigmatized.
But if you are gainfully employed and you have no mental conditions where being out on your own should affect you negatively, then moving out on your own is absolutely not a waste.
> The US is a major outlier
Despite all of its faults, the US is a major outlier in most things... in a good way. Yes, other countries and cultures may do things differently. But the individualist nature of the US is the keystone to what makes this country so great.
- kortilla 5y agoIt sounds like you just had relationship issues with your family and “solved them” by moving out. Just because you got mad there were house rules doesn’t mean house rules hold everyone back. Billions of adults get by fine otherwise around the globe without moving out until they have children and even then moving out isn’t a given. It frequently just changes to the child owning a house and having the parents live in. > But the individualist nature of Pushing for strong families does not imply an emphasis on collectivism at the government levels.