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lockdown made me more depressed than ever. I had a breakup right before the lockdown and ended up overdosing on MDMA right at the start of it in april 2020. Ove

by mysore 5y ago

lockdown made me more depressed than ever. I had a breakup right before the lockdown and ended up overdosing on MDMA right at the start of it in april 2020. Overall haven't been able to recover emotionally or physically but I did get a better job that pays better than any job i've ever had. Eventually moved back in with my parents because it seemed pointless to live in a tiny new york appartment all alone and pay high rent. Now i feel stuck and I'm not sure where to go. I was thinking of traveling in south america because the time zones are the same. I've been feeling like life is kinda pointless. It's just the same thing on repeat everyday. It seems like the pandemic is never going away and we just have to adapt as a species. Things seem bleak in america. Everyone is isolated. There's a housing crisis, a climate crisis, war and supply chain shortages everywhere. Not sure what the point of this comment is, just wanted to vent. I should feel happier than ever because of my new job but I've been depressed ever since my ex blocked me. I emailed her daily for about a year but she never responded so i stopped.

amznbyebyebye 5y ago
Sorry to hear that man. It sounds like you’re young-ish. Time heals, even though it sucks right now, and life has a way of sending someone else down your way and you can make each other happy.. Best of luck friend
throwawayboise 5y ago
Get out of your parent's house. It is a daily reminder that you're not facing life as an adult. You don't have to go to an expensive city. If you are working remotely you can live anywhere and there are plenty of nice towns where housing is not insanely expensive. Join a gym or a hiking club or something to get some physical activity and maybe meet some new friends.
- kortilla 5y ago
  > Get out of your parent's house. It is a daily reminder that you're not facing life as an adult. This is complete bullshit. The US is a major outlier with the societal pressure to move out for no reason. It makes for poor family connections, wasted money, and wasted resources in general.
  - coolso 5y ago
    > no reason This is a big unsubstantiated implication you're making here. I fully agree that there is too much of a stigma against living with your family (though it has improved greatly over the past 10-15 years as surveys and studies have shown) in the US, but there are plenty of reasons to move out. This is coming from someone, by the way, who was convinced he'd probably stay living at home until 30 or so. I eventually realized it was holding me back. Yes, relatively speaking it cost me a ton of money to move out, and I'd have a lot more money in my bank account right now if I didn't, but none of that money was "wasted" and I wouldn't trade it for anything or go back and do anything differently. It changed my life immensely, for the better. I love my family but no matter how much you love your family there is no substitute for having a place of your own, and having the freedom and privacy to live your life the way you like, operate under your own rules, under your preferred hours, etc. You're right, many people may not be ready for this, and living at home shouldn't be stigmatized - though perhaps parents who don't raise children who are ready for it at a reasonable age should be stigmatized. But if you are gainfully employed and you have no mental conditions where being out on your own should affect you negatively, then moving out on your own is absolutely not a waste. > The US is a major outlier Despite all of its faults, the US is a major outlier in most things... in a good way. Yes, other countries and cultures may do things differently. But the individualist nature of the US is the keystone to what makes this country so great.
    - kortilla 5y ago
      It sounds like you just had relationship issues with your family and “solved them” by moving out. Just because you got mad there were house rules doesn’t mean house rules hold everyone back. Billions of adults get by fine otherwise around the globe without moving out until they have children and even then moving out isn’t a given. It frequently just changes to the child owning a house and having the parents live in. > But the individualist nature of Pushing for strong families does not imply an emphasis on collectivism at the government levels.
justinmchase 5y ago
Maybe this isn't what you want to hear but never waste time on someone who doesn't want to be with you.
stripline 5y ago
You should move to Florida. The pandemic has been over here for over a year.

by mysore 5y ago

amznbyebyebye 5y ago

Sorry to hear that man. It sounds like you’re young-ish. Time heals, even though it sucks right now, and life has a way of sending someone else down your way and you can make each other happy.. Best of luck friend

throwawayboise 5y ago

Get out of your parent's house. It is a daily reminder that you're not facing life as an adult. You don't have to go to an expensive city. If you are working remotely you can live anywhere and there are plenty of nice towns where housing is not insanely expensive. Join a gym or a hiking club or something to get some physical activity and maybe meet some new friends.

kortilla 5y ago
> Get out of your parent's house. It is a daily reminder that you're not facing life as an adult. This is complete bullshit. The US is a major outlier with the societal pressure to move out for no reason. It makes for poor family connections, wasted money, and wasted resources in general.
- coolso 5y ago
  > no reason This is a big unsubstantiated implication you're making here. I fully agree that there is too much of a stigma against living with your family (though it has improved greatly over the past 10-15 years as surveys and studies have shown) in the US, but there are plenty of reasons to move out. This is coming from someone, by the way, who was convinced he'd probably stay living at home until 30 or so. I eventually realized it was holding me back. Yes, relatively speaking it cost me a ton of money to move out, and I'd have a lot more money in my bank account right now if I didn't, but none of that money was "wasted" and I wouldn't trade it for anything or go back and do anything differently. It changed my life immensely, for the better. I love my family but no matter how much you love your family there is no substitute for having a place of your own, and having the freedom and privacy to live your life the way you like, operate under your own rules, under your preferred hours, etc. You're right, many people may not be ready for this, and living at home shouldn't be stigmatized - though perhaps parents who don't raise children who are ready for it at a reasonable age should be stigmatized. But if you are gainfully employed and you have no mental conditions where being out on your own should affect you negatively, then moving out on your own is absolutely not a waste. > The US is a major outlier Despite all of its faults, the US is a major outlier in most things... in a good way. Yes, other countries and cultures may do things differently. But the individualist nature of the US is the keystone to what makes this country so great.
  - kortilla 5y ago
    It sounds like you just had relationship issues with your family and “solved them” by moving out. Just because you got mad there were house rules doesn’t mean house rules hold everyone back. Billions of adults get by fine otherwise around the globe without moving out until they have children and even then moving out isn’t a given. It frequently just changes to the child owning a house and having the parents live in. > But the individualist nature of Pushing for strong families does not imply an emphasis on collectivism at the government levels.

justinmchase 5y ago

Maybe this isn't what you want to hear but never waste time on someone who doesn't want to be with you.

stripline 5y ago

You should move to Florida. The pandemic has been over here for over a year.