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I know this won't be popular but I think it is important which is why I am writing this. IMHO, "imposter syndrome" is yet another pop-psychology nonsense fabri
by ComradePhil 5y ago
I know this won't be popular but I think it is important which is why I am writing this.
IMHO, "imposter syndrome" is yet another pop-psychology nonsense fabricated to make money for the professionals, in the same category as "Just pay us $300 per hour and we'll listen to you and tell you how everyone you don't like is a narcissist".
If you have had to exaggerate and lie about your talents and capabilities to land yourself a job, you are a real imposter, in every sense of the word. It is not some "psychological disease" which is not representative of reality.
If you are in a culture/market, where you have to one-up your competitor's exaggeration of themselves to survive, you gotta do what you gotta do. You can accept it as it is and maybe at some point, you can get yourself in a position where you can be honest and survive (even though lying would get you much better opportunities)... or just embrace the fact that you are okay with being a liar and justify it in whatever ways it gives you comfort.
If you have a problem with lying, you will have a problem with it whatever you dress it up as... and it will continue to eat you from the inside even though you know all these fancy theories made up by psychologists. At least knowing and accepting it will help you get out when the situation favors you to do so.
- kvark 5y agoHow do you draw the line between exaggeration and whatnot? The problem exposed by the imposter syndrome is not about lie at all. One day you are creating something, shipping products, feeling valuable and knowledgeable. The other day you start wondering if it was mostly the team around you, and what you've been doing wasn't that important in the large scale of things. The imposter syndrome is about this kind of doubt. It doesn't mean what you wrote in the resume is a lie, or that your story about working on things is a lie. It just makes you reconsider your role in the events.