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No one is that perfect. This sort of refrain is said semi frequently. It’s just not possible to actually be able to live this way.

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deebosong 5y ago
I gotta concur. It's also really easy to rationalize/ justify in either direction, of not doing something because you don't feel like it (and thereby attach reason to your desire), or on the flipside, doing something you actually don't believe in, but excusing yourself for why it's good for you to do so and rationalizing some guilt so you don't have to deal with the inner tension. I heard in general, it's fantastic to be aware of your feelings, but they need to be managed, rather than given the reigns for decision-making. Like, you need an executive functioning overseer that fields, filters, guides, challenges, and at times even overrides your feelings, without denying or snuffing them out.
throwaway22032 5y ago
Why not? If you take the extreme position that literally everything I ever do fits in this framework given information I don't even have, sure, maybe not. If I buy a tin of beans at the supermarket I don't know if like, bean #2129's harvesting resulted in a homicide because the farmer got mad or whatever. And in interpersonal relationships, tempers flare, people get mad, perhaps we take actions that aren't ideal. But I mean, generally, if we're not being silly, you know when things are on the boundaries, and you can spend time then to figure them out. For example if you want to work for a bank, you can work out if you feel like loans are morally justifiable, and if so you do it, if not you can try and do something else. I get the sense a _lot_ of the time that people I'm interacting with just enter "bureaucrat mode" and it's like they have this whole other personality that doesn't do that thinking bit. The best explanation I have is that a lot of people are just under stress most of the time and so their brain doesn't really have the "ON" switch flicked. They just robot through work.

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deebosong 5y ago

I gotta concur. It's also really easy to rationalize/ justify in either direction, of not doing something because you don't feel like it (and thereby attach reason to your desire), or on the flipside, doing something you actually don't believe in, but excusing yourself for why it's good for you to do so and rationalizing some guilt so you don't have to deal with the inner tension. I heard in general, it's fantastic to be aware of your feelings, but they need to be managed, rather than given the reigns for decision-making. Like, you need an executive functioning overseer that fields, filters, guides, challenges, and at times even overrides your feelings, without denying or snuffing them out.

throwaway22032 5y ago

Why not? If you take the extreme position that literally everything I ever do fits in this framework given information I don't even have, sure, maybe not. If I buy a tin of beans at the supermarket I don't know if like, bean #2129's harvesting resulted in a homicide because the farmer got mad or whatever. And in interpersonal relationships, tempers flare, people get mad, perhaps we take actions that aren't ideal. But I mean, generally, if we're not being silly, you know when things are on the boundaries, and you can spend time then to figure them out. For example if you want to work for a bank, you can work out if you feel like loans are morally justifiable, and if so you do it, if not you can try and do something else. I get the sense a _lot_ of the time that people I'm interacting with just enter "bureaucrat mode" and it's like they have this whole other personality that doesn't do that thinking bit. The best explanation I have is that a lot of people are just under stress most of the time and so their brain doesn't really have the "ON" switch flicked. They just robot through work.