Sounds like you really want to be a mid-career IC. I think you should do your best to change jobs until you find what you're looking for, even if it means a pay

Sounds like you really want to be a mid-career IC. I think you should do your best to change jobs until you find what you're looking for, even if it means a pay cut. Not all changes have to be dramatic: you don't have to upend your life. Maybe just see what things are like at a new company?