I'd like to point out that the natural instinct is to take care of the kids first. Doesn't mean don't take care of yourself, but it does mean that they have a h

I'd like to point out that the natural instinct is to take care of the kids first. Doesn't mean don't take care of yourself, but it does mean that they have a hard priority on everything aside from "bare minimum". This does mean there is a threshold for which most kids'need could be ignored aside from necessities (food, sleep). Can definitely pass on even cuddles at time if cuddling the partner, for example (cuddles are very important, but kids steal most of them)