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I don't think this is a necessity but rather a trend bourn of hardening rituals and habits. When you're young flexibility is built in, you are moving quickly be

I don't think this is a necessity but rather a trend bourn of hardening rituals and habits. When you're young flexibility is built in, you are moving quickly between milestones and change is part of the program, thus your adaptability is high which provides softer cushions and greater perceived rewards for change and growth. But as people begin to settle on a solid self-identity, holding fast to the place in the world they think they've carved out, this adaptability wanes and change starts to become more disruptive. But of course this need not be the case. At 30 you have even more life direction choices available to you than when you were 18, indeed given this forum it's difficult to even fathom how many there truly are, though I'd wager you felt like the future was a lot more open when you were 18. But that's just inertia you're feeling, not destiny, and it can be changed at your whim. Of course the WEIRD caveats apply here, as well as a host of other generalizations and psychological needs I'm glossing over. Nonetheless hopefully the shape of the point I'm trying to make finds some purchase.

giantg2 5y ago
I mean, just on the physical front one is not able to do things they used to and require more medical attention. That brings with it financial costs, dealing with broken systems, etc.
- chronofar 5y ago
  Yes physical is one of the things I glossed over and generalized, and of course there is real physical decline that is inevitable. However most people are not genetically destined to be saddled w/ medical bills immediately following their peak, and with basic self-care can maintain general freedom to adapt and move about several decades beyond yours (seems about 60s or so is where you'll likely experience issues of some sort even if you're in exceptional health). Of course again the trend is that many people don't exert said self-care and fall subject to ailments much earlier (or just have bad luck w/ a host of varying types of environmental/genetic circumstances), and just generally use getting older as an excuse to withhold themselves from a great many things. This again is not destiny, merely a trendline that can be changed.

giantg2 5y ago

I mean, just on the physical front one is not able to do things they used to and require more medical attention. That brings with it financial costs, dealing with broken systems, etc.

chronofar 5y ago
Yes physical is one of the things I glossed over and generalized, and of course there is real physical decline that is inevitable. However most people are not genetically destined to be saddled w/ medical bills immediately following their peak, and with basic self-care can maintain general freedom to adapt and move about several decades beyond yours (seems about 60s or so is where you'll likely experience issues of some sort even if you're in exceptional health). Of course again the trend is that many people don't exert said self-care and fall subject to ailments much earlier (or just have bad luck w/ a host of varying types of environmental/genetic circumstances), and just generally use getting older as an excuse to withhold themselves from a great many things. This again is not destiny, merely a trendline that can be changed.