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Yeah, the most depressing part of this is that I'm even jealous of the social camaraderie my finance roommate talks about having with the other analysts he spen

Yeah, the most depressing part of this is that I'm even jealous of the social camaraderie my finance roommate talks about having with the other analysts he spends late office nights with. At least he has the option of an office and people actually go. I'm even saying this as someone who'd admittedly sort of weird, not super social. If everything is remote, I'm tempted to give up on work socializing and just live with some friends of mine in the mountains in CO. After a certain age, you realize you can only form certain kinds of friendships by spending a lot of time with people struggling on similar problems. Granted, last year I attempted to start a company full remote and I was able to build sort of similar bonds, but it's way too hard to gauge people. Those efforts sort of faded after one of our founders turned out to be too emotionally unstable. But yeah. edit - but maybe at 27 this is really just me realizing I'm not that social, don't really like people and should maybe just move on from some kind of idealized social life...

rakejake 5y ago
It is simply much too hard to build connections when you are not face-to-face with someone. I have read countless articles and HN threads on introverts, extroverts, friendships, relationships, meetups etc, countless hours wasted on this topic and that is my pithy conclusion.
- 71a54xd 5y ago
  Agree. Thank you for not using this as an opportunity to shill the metaverse :)
  - rakejake 5y ago
    Now why in the world would I do that?
    - DiggyJohnson 5y ago
      Passing stranger here, whenever these sorts of convos happen on here I like to try and imagine the implication, but not investigate further. Right now I’m assuming you’re the CEO of Metaversal, a fictional metaverse startup that wants to compete with Facebook via a subscription only model (open source code tho, ofc). Best of luck in your endeavors
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landemva 5y ago
' give up on work socializing and just live with some friends of mine in the mountains ' Go do it. Now. Spend your free time chatting on the chairlifts and the whitewater parks and backcountry campsites.
- weq 5y ago
  I caught a bull shark off my balcony this week. I have bush all around. I travelled the world BEFORE COVID and socialised in all the ways while people grabbed onto the dream and pushed foward with their careers. And now? My travelling the world helped me sort out what was important to me. I love to code, yet i dont like the rat race. I thank covid for allowing me to no longer have to FEIGN socialising to get ahead. I no longer have to be apart of the rat race, i can live and be wherever i want, and still change the world with my code. Covid lays bare like any other major tramaua to ones life would. 10yrs ago i did my back in; that was my kick start. I said if i could ever feel normal again, i would use that to go explore. and i did. Listen to your covid trauma, if its telling you that you have spent too much time chasing the rat-race, and lost the opportunity to nurture those life connections. dont wait. go connect. The meaning of life to me is love. No matter how much money you have, without love (of a thing, a friend, a person, a stranger) you have nothing.

rakejake 5y ago

It is simply much too hard to build connections when you are not face-to-face with someone. I have read countless articles and HN threads on introverts, extroverts, friendships, relationships, meetups etc, countless hours wasted on this topic and that is my pithy conclusion.

71a54xd 5y ago
Agree. Thank you for not using this as an opportunity to shill the metaverse :)
- rakejake 5y ago
  Now why in the world would I do that?
  - DiggyJohnson 5y ago
    Passing stranger here, whenever these sorts of convos happen on here I like to try and imagine the implication, but not investigate further. Right now I’m assuming you’re the CEO of Metaversal, a fictional metaverse startup that wants to compete with Facebook via a subscription only model (open source code tho, ofc). Best of luck in your endeavors
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landemva 5y ago

' give up on work socializing and just live with some friends of mine in the mountains ' Go do it. Now. Spend your free time chatting on the chairlifts and the whitewater parks and backcountry campsites.

weq 5y ago
I caught a bull shark off my balcony this week. I have bush all around. I travelled the world BEFORE COVID and socialised in all the ways while people grabbed onto the dream and pushed foward with their careers. And now? My travelling the world helped me sort out what was important to me. I love to code, yet i dont like the rat race. I thank covid for allowing me to no longer have to FEIGN socialising to get ahead. I no longer have to be apart of the rat race, i can live and be wherever i want, and still change the world with my code. Covid lays bare like any other major tramaua to ones life would. 10yrs ago i did my back in; that was my kick start. I said if i could ever feel normal again, i would use that to go explore. and i did. Listen to your covid trauma, if its telling you that you have spent too much time chasing the rat-race, and lost the opportunity to nurture those life connections. dont wait. go connect. The meaning of life to me is love. No matter how much money you have, without love (of a thing, a friend, a person, a stranger) you have nothing.