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A lot of it probably depends on your personality. I don't form organic relationships all that easily. I am not at all relatable to most people and find interfa

A lot of it probably depends on your personality. I don't form organic relationships all that easily. I am not at all relatable to most people and find interfacing with them to be a very mentally costly process, so I am happy that remote significantly cuts down on all that. I also like the need to schedule things far in advance as then I can plan my work around when I also plan to be mentally exhausted. So remote has improved my network by dramatically reducing the expected cost of maintaining it. A few scheduled meetings/planned weeks in advance lunches over spontaneously running it them and them wanting to have lunch when I have deep work scheduled for that afternoon. It is also why I focus my network on other cities. The distance makes in person meetings be the kind of thing planned months in advance. It manages itself in an orderly way. I need not try and impose order on it.

71a54xd 5y ago
Interesting, I guess for me it's hard to tell how strong "remote" relationships really are. Fortunately, I'm more articulate / interesting in my writing than when people talk to me. But "being accountable" over slack for me is at least 2-3x as taxing as just having to hop into a meeting with someone or just some brief in person back and forth. Sometimes it feels like my team performance is being gauged how much I talk through slack, in ways you'd usually just be expected to do so in person or more traditionally. When in reality, I just forget sometimes or suck at knowing how my writing comes off. Since I have an odd sense of humor / sometimes talk like a robot to make sure I'm being clear.
- MattGaiser 5y ago
  I view a remote relationship as strong enough if I would willingly refer someone for a job and they would refer in return or I would trust them enough to do a small contract project with them. As for how I am perceived on Slack, I view my team as a single point of failure and make sure that I am always in a position to get other similar offers. Makes how I am perceived not really matter as I am not the kind to go for an internal promotion anyway as it is more complicated, and again, a single point of failure.

71a54xd 5y ago

Interesting, I guess for me it's hard to tell how strong "remote" relationships really are. Fortunately, I'm more articulate / interesting in my writing than when people talk to me. But "being accountable" over slack for me is at least 2-3x as taxing as just having to hop into a meeting with someone or just some brief in person back and forth. Sometimes it feels like my team performance is being gauged how much I talk through slack, in ways you'd usually just be expected to do so in person or more traditionally. When in reality, I just forget sometimes or suck at knowing how my writing comes off. Since I have an odd sense of humor / sometimes talk like a robot to make sure I'm being clear.

MattGaiser 5y ago
I view a remote relationship as strong enough if I would willingly refer someone for a job and they would refer in return or I would trust them enough to do a small contract project with them. As for how I am perceived on Slack, I view my team as a single point of failure and make sure that I am always in a position to get other similar offers. Makes how I am perceived not really matter as I am not the kind to go for an internal promotion anyway as it is more complicated, and again, a single point of failure.