I agree. The whole idea of 'humility' needs to be unpacked (anyone know of a good essay or book on the subject?). It's one of the most frequently mentioned val

I agree. The whole idea of 'humility' needs to be unpacked (anyone know of a good essay or book on the subject?). It's one of the most frequently mentioned values in this thread, so obviously it's important to people (and to me)... but it can also cause a lack of self-expression or action based on fear of being seen as egotistical. I prefer to avoid the word "humble" and instead use "pretentious" to describe its lack (pretending to be someone you're not, to know more than you do, or to be more important than those around you), and "open-minded, eager to listen to criticism and change your mind" for its positive side. I enjoy people who express their opinions strongly, but are good listeners and quick to change their mind as the winds of reason and evidence change direction.