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Well, I don't think people need to try every random trick in the hopes that one magically works, but all the basic options, yea, especially holding them against
by sacrosancty 5y ago
Well, I don't think people need to try every random trick in the hopes that one magically works, but all the basic options, yea, especially holding them against your body. The main aim should be to prevent lifelong emotional damage, not to help the parents get some sleep. Some parents try to train them not to cry by leaving them alone! That apparently even works but it's pretty horrifying since if it's done wrong, it also trains them to be incapable of maintaining secure adult relationships later in life.
- ram_rar 5y ago> That apparently even works but it's pretty horrifying since if it's done wrong, it also trains them to be incapable of maintaining secure adult relationships later in life. do you have any data or clinical trials to substantiate this? Seems pretty bold claim.
- sacrosancty 5y agoNo, sorry. It's something I read about while researching insecure attachment styles of adults. They attribute it to neglectful or inconsistently caring parenting. Research might be poor quality because it's social science but it's probably there somewhere if you look for it. Though this isn't convincing, on a common sense level, I imagine if you locked up an adult in solitary confinement every time he expressed some emotion like anger or sadness, you wouldn't be surprised to find that he developed some kind of lasting psychological problems.
- ciphol 5y agoSounds like you have bought into "attachment parenting". There is no real evidence that attachment parenting actually makes a difference.