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"Dating apps throw way too many options at us. You're supposed to swipe on people, maintain dozens of conversations, continue going on dates until you're exclus

"Dating apps throw way too many options at us. You're supposed to swipe on people, maintain dozens of conversations, continue going on dates until you're exclusive. The lack of commitment undermines true intimacy. Cuffed only lets you match with one person at a time - forcing you to think about whether this match is worth your time." This conflates exclusivity, commitment and intimacy in a way that doesn't reflect my romantic and dating life, or the lives of a number of my friends. I can only imagine what other assumptions it makes. It's okay that this isn't for me, there's honestly a lot of room for innovation in the dating app or socialization app space. I've yet to find an app I consider perfect, though there are definitely ones I'm using that are more niche, and better suited for me, than tinder/CMB/OkCupid.

ocdtrekkie 5y ago
It doesn't reflect yours but it might reflect others'. I personally couldn't carry on more than a single serious conversation with someone without a lot of heartache or frustration. So when I first started talking to the person who is now my wife, the next person who messaged me got a polite decline even though we were not boyfriend and girlfriend at the time.
- WesternWind 5y ago
  Yes absolutely I'm sure ir does reflect other's experience, most likely the person or people behind it. That is why it's okay that it's not for me. Though now I'm trying to think of dating apps that just wouldn't work. Cuffed could totally be the name of a dating app for people on house arrest or out on bail.
- drekipus 5y ago
  same here I met my wife on Bumble, it has a bit of a swipe mechanic, but realistically my (now) wife was the only one (out of all the apps) who actually captured my attention and had interesting conversations with. The conversation was interesting enough to draw me back from all the other conversations that were going nowhere. I think the point of this app is to try and slow people down and try to spend a bit of time talking with people to get to know them; you've got a whole day to ask about interests, news, adventures, plans, history, etc. rather than "your pickup line wasn't witty enough, next!" or "lets trade witty remarks to each other for the next week, have sex, and never see each other again" (although arguably you don't want to match with that sort of person. so maybe the real benefit is that they would be filtered out by this app?) sorta letting people know that they're more than just a profile picture?

ocdtrekkie 5y ago

It doesn't reflect yours but it might reflect others'. I personally couldn't carry on more than a single serious conversation with someone without a lot of heartache or frustration. So when I first started talking to the person who is now my wife, the next person who messaged me got a polite decline even though we were not boyfriend and girlfriend at the time.

WesternWind 5y ago
Yes absolutely I'm sure ir does reflect other's experience, most likely the person or people behind it. That is why it's okay that it's not for me. Though now I'm trying to think of dating apps that just wouldn't work. Cuffed could totally be the name of a dating app for people on house arrest or out on bail.
drekipus 5y ago
same here I met my wife on Bumble, it has a bit of a swipe mechanic, but realistically my (now) wife was the only one (out of all the apps) who actually captured my attention and had interesting conversations with. The conversation was interesting enough to draw me back from all the other conversations that were going nowhere. I think the point of this app is to try and slow people down and try to spend a bit of time talking with people to get to know them; you've got a whole day to ask about interests, news, adventures, plans, history, etc. rather than "your pickup line wasn't witty enough, next!" or "lets trade witty remarks to each other for the next week, have sex, and never see each other again" (although arguably you don't want to match with that sort of person. so maybe the real benefit is that they would be filtered out by this app?) sorta letting people know that they're more than just a profile picture?