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> Controlling kids’ interactions with other humans with underdeveloped brains is like the most critical part of parenting. Do you have kids? Can you explain wh

> Controlling kids’ interactions with other humans with underdeveloped brains is like the most critical part of parenting. Do you have kids? Can you explain what you mean by this?

rayiner 5y ago
I’ve got three. Studies show that the strongest influence on kids are their peers. Problem is that kids are dumb and irrational—again, undeveloped frontal cortex and with teenagers, hormones—especially in groups. As a result, parents need to carefully control both who their kids socialize with, and the nature of those social interactions. Social media compounds those problems. Permissive parenting that treats kids like little adults and over-emphasizes cultivation of their individual relationships and preferences does them a disservice. It’s like letting a drunk person drive a car.
- long_time_gone 5y ago
  > Studies show that the strongest influence on kids are their peers. Could you please share? The ones I'm finding say that parents are the strongest influence [1] [2] [3] [4]. > Permissive parenting that treats kids like little adults and over-emphasizes cultivation of their individual relationships and preferences does them a disservice. Parenting that attempts to "carefully control" interactions until their 25th birthday seems like a disservice of equal size. I met some of these kids when I got to University. They didn't fare very well without their parents to control everything. As with most things, the answer is likely in the middle. [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826572/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826572/ [2] https://blogs.iadb.org/desarrollo-infantil/en/parental-behavior-influences-child-development/ https://blogs.iadb.org/desarrollo-infantil/en/parental-behav... [3] https://archive.unu.edu/unupress/unupbooks/uu13se/uu13se06.htm https://archive.unu.edu/unupress/unupbooks/uu13se/uu13se06.h... [4] https://www.mckendree.edu/academics/scholars/issue17/green.htm https://www.mckendree.edu/academics/scholars/issue17/green.h...

> Controlling kids’ interactions with other humans with underdeveloped brains is like the most critical part of parenting. Do you have kids? Can you explain what you mean by this?

rayiner 5y ago

I’ve got three. Studies show that the strongest influence on kids are their peers. Problem is that kids are dumb and irrational—again, undeveloped frontal cortex and with teenagers, hormones—especially in groups. As a result, parents need to carefully control both who their kids socialize with, and the nature of those social interactions. Social media compounds those problems. Permissive parenting that treats kids like little adults and over-emphasizes cultivation of their individual relationships and preferences does them a disservice. It’s like letting a drunk person drive a car.

long_time_gone 5y ago
> Studies show that the strongest influence on kids are their peers. Could you please share? The ones I'm finding say that parents are the strongest influence [1] [2] [3] [4]. > Permissive parenting that treats kids like little adults and over-emphasizes cultivation of their individual relationships and preferences does them a disservice. Parenting that attempts to "carefully control" interactions until their 25th birthday seems like a disservice of equal size. I met some of these kids when I got to University. They didn't fare very well without their parents to control everything. As with most things, the answer is likely in the middle. [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826572/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826572/ [2] https://blogs.iadb.org/desarrollo-infantil/en/parental-behavior-influences-child-development/ https://blogs.iadb.org/desarrollo-infantil/en/parental-behav... [3] https://archive.unu.edu/unupress/unupbooks/uu13se/uu13se06.htm https://archive.unu.edu/unupress/unupbooks/uu13se/uu13se06.h... [4] https://www.mckendree.edu/academics/scholars/issue17/green.htm https://www.mckendree.edu/academics/scholars/issue17/green.h...