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Not exactly my kind of thing, but a friend of mine was selling pictures of her feet and making six figures (she started when she was 17!). Men and women just li

by dvt 5y ago

Not exactly my kind of thing, but a friend of mine was selling pictures of her feet and making six figures (she started when she was 17!). Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's insane to me that anyone would pay for OnlyFans, private Snaps, etc. But here we are, it's literally a billion-dollar-a-year marketplace.

whatshisface 5y ago
>Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's important not to overgeneralize, we're talking only about the 99th percentile of men on the desperation scale, and the 99th percentile of women willing and able to profit from them. Despite what you read on the internet most people still have normal relationships! Constructing your worldview from the 1% most extreme forms of human interaction will, in so many words, make you crazy.
- giantg2 5y ago
  I think that depends on one's specific definition of different worlds. I thought it was a reasonable expression since men and women have very different experiences which are pervasive in the culture. For example, "going dutch" is getting more popular, but generally men are still expected to buy drinks or pay for dinner. Women have to be more careful about date rape than men. And so on.
- barry-cotter 5y ago
  This is a ridiculous response to a commonplace observation. Men and women have enormously different experiences in the dating market. 99th percentile encounters are the entirety of romantic interaction. Outside societies that have rigid sex segregation well over 99% of all interaction with potential romantic partners is non-romantic.
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  - whatshisface 5y ago
    The grandparent's example of a different world wasn't the guy picking up the check, it was making six figures by doing something virtually nobody does.
    - barry-cotter 5y ago
      There are lots of areas where men and women live in different worlds. Dating is one of them. The strongest female athlete might be slightly stronger than an average man in terms of grip strength [1]. The best women’s soccer team in the world can’t beat a club side of 15 year old boys[2]. A sub 200 ranked man beat the top 2 women tennis players back to back. The average man’s and woman’s dating experience are disjoint. The problems the other faces are alien because they don’t come up. Women don’t have any problems if they want to have sex. Men who want to get married and have children do not go looking for long if they’re actually looking. [1] https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a-woman-in-the-90th-percentile-would-be-at-the-10th-percentile-for-men/ https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a... [2] https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/ https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-b... [3] https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/The-Man-Who-Beat-Venus-and-Serena-Back-to-Back.aspx https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/...
      - whatshisface 5y ago
        I appreciate that you're trying to approach this topic scientifically but it's a giant nonsequitur to go from references about soccer team performance to dating. If there's a difference in dating experiences I don't see how you're going to uncover it with those citations.
giantg2 5y ago
"Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage)." Based on the number of couples who divorce or need a counselor to communicate, it's seems this trend continues during or after many marriages too.

by dvt 5y ago

whatshisface 5y ago

>Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's important not to overgeneralize, we're talking only about the 99th percentile of men on the desperation scale, and the 99th percentile of women willing and able to profit from them. Despite what you read on the internet most people still have normal relationships! Constructing your worldview from the 1% most extreme forms of human interaction will, in so many words, make you crazy.

giantg2 5y ago
I think that depends on one's specific definition of different worlds. I thought it was a reasonable expression since men and women have very different experiences which are pervasive in the culture. For example, "going dutch" is getting more popular, but generally men are still expected to buy drinks or pay for dinner. Women have to be more careful about date rape than men. And so on.
barry-cotter 5y ago
This is a ridiculous response to a commonplace observation. Men and women have enormously different experiences in the dating market. 99th percentile encounters are the entirety of romantic interaction. Outside societies that have rigid sex segregation well over 99% of all interaction with potential romantic partners is non-romantic.
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- whatshisface 5y ago
  The grandparent's example of a different world wasn't the guy picking up the check, it was making six figures by doing something virtually nobody does.
  - barry-cotter 5y ago
    There are lots of areas where men and women live in different worlds. Dating is one of them. The strongest female athlete might be slightly stronger than an average man in terms of grip strength [1]. The best women’s soccer team in the world can’t beat a club side of 15 year old boys[2]. A sub 200 ranked man beat the top 2 women tennis players back to back. The average man’s and woman’s dating experience are disjoint. The problems the other faces are alien because they don’t come up. Women don’t have any problems if they want to have sex. Men who want to get married and have children do not go looking for long if they’re actually looking. [1] https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a-woman-in-the-90th-percentile-would-be-at-the-10th-percentile-for-men/ https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a... [2] https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/ https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-b... [3] https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/The-Man-Who-Beat-Venus-and-Serena-Back-to-Back.aspx https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/...
    - whatshisface 5y ago
      I appreciate that you're trying to approach this topic scientifically but it's a giant nonsequitur to go from references about soccer team performance to dating. If there's a difference in dating experiences I don't see how you're going to uncover it with those citations.

giantg2 5y ago

"Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage)." Based on the number of couples who divorce or need a counselor to communicate, it's seems this trend continues during or after many marriages too.