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A fan going to their star’s house with a weapon is rare. A man stalking and becoming obsessed with a specific woman, spending time and effort for sex and atten
by armchairhacker 5y ago
A fan going to their star’s house with a weapon is rare.
A man stalking and becoming obsessed with a specific woman, spending time and effort for sex and attention despite the woman clearly not being interested, is surprisingly common.
Many, many woman have real-life incidents of men literally stalking them, men repeatedly trying to get their attention / ask them out despite blatant “stop talking to me” rejection, and men getting really aggressive when they get rejected or “emasculated”. On games and social media it’s much worse, to the point where basically anyone who reveals themselves to be female gets creepy messages. You just don’t realize because relatively this stuff almost never happens to men, even attractive men.
Go on a sub like r/NiceGuys, r/TwoXChromosomes and you will see a ton of examples. But even random subs like r/AskReddit and my college’s sub have multiple stories because it’s so common. It’s actually a very serious issue in nearly every society, and this incident is an (albeit extreme) example of the persistence and aggressiveness most semi-attractive women experience.
- asdfasgasdgasdg 5y ago> A fan going to their star’s house with a weapon is rare. > A man stalking and becoming obsessed with a specific woman [is common] . . . I recognize the truth of what you're saying, but I also just want to point out that the discussion is about the former situation, not the latter one. Otherwise there wouldn't be these vague intimations that something is wrong with Tiktok in the NYTimes piece.
- dragonwriter 5y ago> A fan going to their star’s house with a weapon is rare. If your denominator is fans, yes. If it is stars, not so much. > You just don’t realize because relatively this stuff almost never happens to men, even attractive men. Yes, it does, and not just conventionally attractive men. You don't realize because men have less social support for discussing it when it happens to them, and you mistake relative visibility for relative frequency.
- giantg2 5y agoI'm glad you brought this up. I think this is similar to how domestic violence is cast as a women's issue, yet men are just as likely if not more so to be victims. https://www.saveservices.org/2019/02/men-face-31-greater-risk-of-domestic-violence-than-women/ https://www.saveservices.org/2019/02/men-face-31-greater-ris...