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The most surprising thing about this story to me is that there are 14 year olds advertising their venmo wallets.

Spivak 5y ago
Two things: 1. It's just "buy me a coffee" but for TikTok, it's not weird until creepy adults make it weird. One creator I follow gets a bunch of people sending her $0.69 for the memes. Lots of people use Amazon wishlists for this too. People with artistic talent will sell merch on Etsy/Redbubble. 2. Oh honey, I will make no claims about anyone but myself but I did this kinda shit when I was that age. I realized I was hot, I was a sponge for attention, and too stupid to realize that having older guys hitting on me and buying me stuff wasn't as cool as I thought. Amazing in hindsight that nothing bad ever came of it.
- dvt 5y ago
  Not exactly my kind of thing, but a friend of mine was selling pictures of her feet and making six figures (she started when she was 17!). Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's insane to me that anyone would pay for OnlyFans, private Snaps, etc. But here we are, it's literally a billion-dollar-a-year marketplace.
  - whatshisface 5y ago
    >Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's important not to overgeneralize, we're talking only about the 99th percentile of men on the desperation scale, and the 99th percentile of women willing and able to profit from them. Despite what you read on the internet most people still have normal relationships! Constructing your worldview from the 1% most extreme forms of human interaction will, in so many words, make you crazy.
    - giantg2 5y ago
      I think that depends on one's specific definition of different worlds. I thought it was a reasonable expression since men and women have very different experiences which are pervasive in the culture. For example, "going dutch" is getting more popular, but generally men are still expected to buy drinks or pay for dinner. Women have to be more careful about date rape than men. And so on.
    - barry-cotter 5y ago
      This is a ridiculous response to a commonplace observation. Men and women have enormously different experiences in the dating market. 99th percentile encounters are the entirety of romantic interaction. Outside societies that have rigid sex segregation well over 99% of all interaction with potential romantic partners is non-romantic.
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      - whatshisface 5y ago
        The grandparent's example of a different world wasn't the guy picking up the check, it was making six figures by doing something virtually nobody does.
        barry-cotter 5y ago
        There are lots of areas where men and women live in different worlds. Dating is one of them. The strongest female athlete might be slightly stronger than an average man in terms of grip strength [1]. The best women’s soccer team in the world can’t beat a club side of 15 year old boys[2]. A sub 200 ranked man beat the top 2 women tennis players back to back. The average man’s and woman’s dating experience are disjoint. The problems the other faces are alien because they don’t come up. Women don’t have any problems if they want to have sex. Men who want to get married and have children do not go looking for long if they’re actually looking. [1] https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a-woman-in-the-90th-percentile-would-be-at-the-10th-percentile-for-men/ https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a... [2] https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/ https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-b... [3] https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/The-Man-Who-Beat-Venus-and-Serena-Back-to-Back.aspx https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/...
  - giantg2 5y ago
    "Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage)." Based on the number of couples who divorce or need a counselor to communicate, it's seems this trend continues during or after many marriages too.
- rayiner 5y ago
  But adults will make it weird (because men), and kids will be oblivious about the risks (because kids), and that’s why parents need to parent.
  - Spivak 5y ago
    100% agree, not saying I was in a place to listen at 14 but you're right.
  - xeromal 5y ago
    (because men) is an interesting line to draw.
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    - rayiner 5y ago
      It’s m both common sense—ask virtually any mom in any country that still believes in that—as well as science: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/09/harvard-biologist-discusses-testosterones-role-in-society/ https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/09/harvard-biolo...
judge2020 5y ago
To add, Venmo doesn't allow anyone under 18 to sign up. It must have been their parents' venmo perhaps, or they lied signing up and due to the empty credit report the venmo system assumed the birthday was correct, also contributing that birthday back to the credit bureau.

Two things: 1. It's just "buy me a coffee" but for TikTok, it's not weird until creepy adults make it weird. One creator I follow gets a bunch of people sending her $0.69 for the memes. Lots of people use Amazon wishlists for this too. People with artistic talent will sell merch on Etsy/Redbubble. 2. Oh honey, I will make no claims about anyone but myself but I did this kinda shit when I was that age. I realized I was hot, I was a sponge for attention, and too stupid to realize that having older guys hitting on me and buying me stuff wasn't as cool as I thought. Amazing in hindsight that nothing bad ever came of it.

dvt 5y ago
Not exactly my kind of thing, but a friend of mine was selling pictures of her feet and making six figures (she started when she was 17!). Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's insane to me that anyone would pay for OnlyFans, private Snaps, etc. But here we are, it's literally a billion-dollar-a-year marketplace.
- whatshisface 5y ago
  >Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage). It's important not to overgeneralize, we're talking only about the 99th percentile of men on the desperation scale, and the 99th percentile of women willing and able to profit from them. Despite what you read on the internet most people still have normal relationships! Constructing your worldview from the 1% most extreme forms of human interaction will, in so many words, make you crazy.
  - giantg2 5y ago
    I think that depends on one's specific definition of different worlds. I thought it was a reasonable expression since men and women have very different experiences which are pervasive in the culture. For example, "going dutch" is getting more popular, but generally men are still expected to buy drinks or pay for dinner. Women have to be more careful about date rape than men. And so on.
  - barry-cotter 5y ago
    This is a ridiculous response to a commonplace observation. Men and women have enormously different experiences in the dating market. 99th percentile encounters are the entirety of romantic interaction. Outside societies that have rigid sex segregation well over 99% of all interaction with potential romantic partners is non-romantic.
    - deleted 5y ago
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    - whatshisface 5y ago
      The grandparent's example of a different world wasn't the guy picking up the check, it was making six figures by doing something virtually nobody does.
      - barry-cotter 5y ago
        There are lots of areas where men and women live in different worlds. Dating is one of them. The strongest female athlete might be slightly stronger than an average man in terms of grip strength [1]. The best women’s soccer team in the world can’t beat a club side of 15 year old boys[2]. A sub 200 ranked man beat the top 2 women tennis players back to back. The average man’s and woman’s dating experience are disjoint. The problems the other faces are alien because they don’t come up. Women don’t have any problems if they want to have sex. Men who want to get married and have children do not go looking for long if they’re actually looking. [1] https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a-woman-in-the-90th-percentile-would-be-at-the-10th-percentile-for-men/ https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2017/05/04/in-grip-strength-a... [2] https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/ https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-b... [3] https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/The-Man-Who-Beat-Venus-and-Serena-Back-to-Back.aspx https://www.tennisnow.com/Blogs/NET-POSTS/November-2017-(1)/...
- giantg2 5y ago
  "Men and women just live in completely different worlds in their 20s and 30s (until serious relationships/marriage)." Based on the number of couples who divorce or need a counselor to communicate, it's seems this trend continues during or after many marriages too.
rayiner 5y ago
But adults will make it weird (because men), and kids will be oblivious about the risks (because kids), and that’s why parents need to parent.
- Spivak 5y ago
  100% agree, not saying I was in a place to listen at 14 but you're right.
- xeromal 5y ago
  (because men) is an interesting line to draw.
  - deleted 5y ago
    [deleted]
  - rayiner 5y ago
    It’s m both common sense—ask virtually any mom in any country that still believes in that—as well as science: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/09/harvard-biologist-discusses-testosterones-role-in-society/ https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/09/harvard-biolo...

judge2020 5y ago

To add, Venmo doesn't allow anyone under 18 to sign up. It must have been their parents' venmo perhaps, or they lied signing up and due to the empty credit report the venmo system assumed the birthday was correct, also contributing that birthday back to the credit bureau.