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I'm 10 years older than you, and this doesn't resonate with me at all. Having sex shouldn't be exhausting. It's fun and easy. In fact, your whole post makes m

I'm 10 years older than you, and this doesn't resonate with me at all. Having sex shouldn't be exhausting. It's fun and easy. In fact, your whole post makes me tired just reading it. You sound exhausted. I hope you can find a way to get some rest.

halo37253 5y ago
Sex is a process, its the foreplay and the physical goodness. Yeah of course it is fun, and makes your body hurt the next day. But it is a process, and spending 30 minuets to do something I can rub out in a few minuets isn't always worth it. I am tired, and rest is not an option. Even when you go on vacation, you are not resting. You are working to allow your kids to have fun. You come home more tired than when you left. Yeah sexy is fun, and easy. when the time is right. Who has time these days. Time is the one thing I wish I had more of every day.
- PaulHoule 5y ago
  If you're not having sex this attitude is part of the reason why.
  - halo37253 5y ago
    Or maybe when you do have sex it isn't fulfilling enough to last days. Every couple is different. For us there is a lot involved. Toys, spankings, choking, dirty talk, lot of movement, etc. We can do this once a week and the pleasure gained from it will last days. Also Locations change things up too. Never like spicing this up during a xmas party by sneaking off and getting it on.
  - relaxation 5y ago
bradlys 5y ago
> I'm 10 years older than you, and this doesn't resonate with me at all. You might be 10 years luckier. Consider home prices in 2019 versus 2009.
- queuebert 5y ago
  I don't understand what this has to do with work-life balance and getting enough sleep and sex.
  - bradlys 5y ago
    You buy a house cheap. Your wages go up cause wages have been going up for a lot of industries (due to cost of housing and competition). You don't have to work as hard because your mortgage stayed the same. You can keep the same job or work less hours. It's happening all around me in SV. Many owners who bought below $1m basically retiring early because they started making $300-500K/yr for the last few years and now are FIRE'd thanks to the incredible wage growth while they locked in a much lower COL than people who had to buy 10 years later. Here's the fun part - we aren't expecting your standard senior IC to be making 7 figures in the next few years but that's what it'd take to be comparable to the wage growth that we've seen in SV in the last decade along with housing prices.

halo37253 5y ago

Sex is a process, its the foreplay and the physical goodness. Yeah of course it is fun, and makes your body hurt the next day. But it is a process, and spending 30 minuets to do something I can rub out in a few minuets isn't always worth it. I am tired, and rest is not an option. Even when you go on vacation, you are not resting. You are working to allow your kids to have fun. You come home more tired than when you left. Yeah sexy is fun, and easy. when the time is right. Who has time these days. Time is the one thing I wish I had more of every day.

PaulHoule 5y ago
If you're not having sex this attitude is part of the reason why.
- halo37253 5y ago
  Or maybe when you do have sex it isn't fulfilling enough to last days. Every couple is different. For us there is a lot involved. Toys, spankings, choking, dirty talk, lot of movement, etc. We can do this once a week and the pleasure gained from it will last days. Also Locations change things up too. Never like spicing this up during a xmas party by sneaking off and getting it on.
- relaxation 5y ago

bradlys 5y ago

> I'm 10 years older than you, and this doesn't resonate with me at all. You might be 10 years luckier. Consider home prices in 2019 versus 2009.

queuebert 5y ago
I don't understand what this has to do with work-life balance and getting enough sleep and sex.
- bradlys 5y ago
  You buy a house cheap. Your wages go up cause wages have been going up for a lot of industries (due to cost of housing and competition). You don't have to work as hard because your mortgage stayed the same. You can keep the same job or work less hours. It's happening all around me in SV. Many owners who bought below $1m basically retiring early because they started making $300-500K/yr for the last few years and now are FIRE'd thanks to the incredible wage growth while they locked in a much lower COL than people who had to buy 10 years later. Here's the fun part - we aren't expecting your standard senior IC to be making 7 figures in the next few years but that's what it'd take to be comparable to the wage growth that we've seen in SV in the last decade along with housing prices.