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Mid 20s, here is my perspective. I have spent the last 7-8 years studying like my life depended on it, and I have little to show for it. I am autistic, so I ha
by PartiallyTyped 5y ago
Mid 20s, here is my perspective.
I have spent the last 7-8 years studying like my life depended on it, and I have little to show for it. I am autistic, so I haven't developed the social skills necessary. Every social interaction is a conscious process and I have to consciously read everything to interact "normally".
The effort is simply not worth it. Why should I even bother approaching a person when with high probability they will think I am a creep? Why bother ruining my mood and another person's? Is sex worth the effort? Is a relationship with a person who will end up judging me for being too weird worth it? Is the time and effort spent in all that "worth it"?
If my last 2 relationships are any indication, a relationship just isn't worth the hassle.
- queuebert 5y agoFeel better, friend. The mere fact that you are concerned about being a creep means you're one of the good ones. Relationships are hard, even with good people, so try to lower the stakes. Have a friendly coffee with no real expectations with more people. More dates with less expectation. This is what helped me. I said something completely stupid and autistic on my first date with my now wife, but she stuck with me because she saw potential. Relationships are a numbers game. And to help decide who to keep and who to discard, I like the Secretary Problem: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem