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Not as much porn use as very regular ejaculation. I have started to look into sexuality and tantra, and it really seems like there are some effects people will

Not as much porn use as very regular ejaculation. I have started to look into sexuality and tantra, and it really seems like there are some effects people will only see after 5-6 days abstinence. And yes, the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt, if they don't ejaculate 2 times a day. Porn, however, seems to be the enabler of so much ejaculation. Then again: The risk / unknowns of getting a partner can definitely also outweigh the cons of abstinence.

malfist 5y ago
> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic? Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.
- Throwaway8373 5y ago
  Well, this is only in the context of courtship, which is _inherently_ sexually polarizing. You most _definitely should not_ bring this view into the work place. In that case you are in your right to call is misogynistic. And this comment is also a prime example of the derailment that leads to the vanilla meeting between the genders. (I expect people to be able the read "masculine core" for men and "feminine core" for women)
  - hef19898 5y ago
    Treating people as trophies to be won is the problem. And yes, seeing it, as a man, as a pure hinting exercise misogynistic. Also contra productive.
    - educaysean 5y ago
      This feels like a rather uncharitable interpretation. Entering into in an exclusive relationship with someone means you have come out ahead of other potential "competitors" and are able to claim the reward: access to the elevated relationship with the said individual, and not necessarily the individual themselves. Do you also take issue with the phrases like "How to win his heart" or "You need to win her over"?
    - Jensson 5y ago
      You called women trophies, they didn't. You can hunt for a job etc, it is a general term for when you put in effort towards finding/getting something.
    - jhanschoo 5y ago
      > the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt Perhaps it is you with your interpretation that is misogynistic. The person was writing focusing on men, but both men and women are on the hunt for a compatible partner with which they could build a fulfilling relationship.
    - Bancakes 5y ago
      It's the reality of biology. You cannot avoid this.
      - ben_w 5y ago
        Trophy relationships are avoidable. Heck, I know Ace people who started families.
        Bancakes 5y ago
        Trophy relationship menas you actively went out to look for a proper partner and earned it. It's normal animal behavior to hunt for the best mate.
        ben_w 5y ago
        Ah, I see you are using a new and exciting definition of the word that I was previously unaware of. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_wife https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_wife
- globular-toast 5y ago
  - malfist 5y ago
  - dang 5y ago
    > yours sounds like you're either a woman or a virgin WTF? We ban accounts that post like this. No more of this, please. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
globular-toast 5y ago
In my last long-term relationship, in the first year I stopped using porn completely as I was completely satisfied with sex. As time went on sex with the same partner becomes less exciting, even if you love them. By year 3 I found sometimes I would not be excited enough for fulfilling sex (I'm a mid-30s man). What I found was that watching porn improved this a lot. It made me excited again, but I still ejaculated exclusively into my partner. It wasn't that I would think about porn during sex or anything either. It just caused me to see her in a different light somehow. But if I got carried away and ejaculated while watching porn it was over for at least 2-3 days. Completely dead sex drive. So yeah, I've come to agree that it's ejaculating while watching porn that is the real bad thing. Porn itself I think can be bad too, but for other reasons.

malfist 5y ago

> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic? Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.

Throwaway8373 5y ago
Well, this is only in the context of courtship, which is _inherently_ sexually polarizing. You most _definitely should not_ bring this view into the work place. In that case you are in your right to call is misogynistic. And this comment is also a prime example of the derailment that leads to the vanilla meeting between the genders. (I expect people to be able the read "masculine core" for men and "feminine core" for women)
- hef19898 5y ago
  Treating people as trophies to be won is the problem. And yes, seeing it, as a man, as a pure hinting exercise misogynistic. Also contra productive.
  - educaysean 5y ago
    This feels like a rather uncharitable interpretation. Entering into in an exclusive relationship with someone means you have come out ahead of other potential "competitors" and are able to claim the reward: access to the elevated relationship with the said individual, and not necessarily the individual themselves. Do you also take issue with the phrases like "How to win his heart" or "You need to win her over"?
  - Jensson 5y ago
    You called women trophies, they didn't. You can hunt for a job etc, it is a general term for when you put in effort towards finding/getting something.
  - jhanschoo 5y ago
    > the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt Perhaps it is you with your interpretation that is misogynistic. The person was writing focusing on men, but both men and women are on the hunt for a compatible partner with which they could build a fulfilling relationship.
  - Bancakes 5y ago
    It's the reality of biology. You cannot avoid this.
    - ben_w 5y ago
      Trophy relationships are avoidable. Heck, I know Ace people who started families.
      - Bancakes 5y ago
        Trophy relationship menas you actively went out to look for a proper partner and earned it. It's normal animal behavior to hunt for the best mate.
        ben_w 5y ago
        Ah, I see you are using a new and exciting definition of the word that I was previously unaware of. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_wife https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_wife
globular-toast 5y ago
- malfist 5y ago
- dang 5y ago
  > yours sounds like you're either a woman or a virgin WTF? We ban accounts that post like this. No more of this, please. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

globular-toast 5y ago

In my last long-term relationship, in the first year I stopped using porn completely as I was completely satisfied with sex. As time went on sex with the same partner becomes less exciting, even if you love them. By year 3 I found sometimes I would not be excited enough for fulfilling sex (I'm a mid-30s man). What I found was that watching porn improved this a lot. It made me excited again, but I still ejaculated exclusively into my partner. It wasn't that I would think about porn during sex or anything either. It just caused me to see her in a different light somehow. But if I got carried away and ejaculated while watching porn it was over for at least 2-3 days. Completely dead sex drive. So yeah, I've come to agree that it's ejaculating while watching porn that is the real bad thing. Porn itself I think can be bad too, but for other reasons.