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What he said is true in rural America. In the religious areas, which is most of 'em. This is a divided country. You'd be shocked at how seriously people take re

by javert 5y ago

What he said is true in rural America. In the religious areas, which is most of 'em. This is a divided country. You'd be shocked at how seriously people take religion and how it affects views on sex.

bmarquez 5y ago
Having gone to private Christian schools when I was younger (in suburban America but not quite rural), I'm going to offer the anecdote that religious people are just as sexual as non-religious people. They just won't admit to it openly or on surveys.
- artificial 5y ago
  The religious families are extremely small on average /s
- javert 5y ago
  I'm sorry, but there are tons of young people from religious or conservative families who wait until marriage to have sex and marry young, and/or don't begin their sexual exploration until well into college. Your anecdotal point notwithstanding. All human beings are equally sexual in terms of their drive and interest, but religion can and does alter psychology and behavior. There are places where religion is common but isn't taken that seriously, and then there are places were it's common and it is taken very seriously. Sounds like your school was the former and that's fine. It doesn't preclude the existence of the latter.
  - bmarquez 5y ago
    > I'm sorry, but there are tons of young people from religious or conservative families who wait until marriage to have sex and marry young The parent poster implied that people were highly bound by their religion; I simply offered a counterexample. I am not saying that abstinence until marriage never happens. > and/or don't begin their sexual exploration until well into college This is not relevant since the teaching is abstinence until marriage, not abstinence until college.
    - javert 5y ago
      > I simply offered a counterexample. That isn't true. You offered a counterargument. > This is not relevant since the teaching is abstinence until marriage, not abstinence until college. A common effect of religious influence is delayed sexual exploration (i.e., later than what's natural given human biological development). The fact that you need this to be explained to you shows that you aren't aware of the phenomenon we're discussing. It's something that's very hard to understand if you haven't lived it.
- Kye 5y ago
  I've heard of all the kinds of concepts they invent to have sex while saying they didn't. They'll show up as untainted by impure thoughts and behavior in surveys, but they're having it. One recurring thing in particular: religious men who have sex with men and consider themselves abstinent/faithful to their wives because "it doesn't count."

by javert 5y ago

What he said is true in rural America. In the religious areas, which is most of 'em. This is a divided country. You'd be shocked at how seriously people take religion and how it affects views on sex.

bmarquez 5y ago

Having gone to private Christian schools when I was younger (in suburban America but not quite rural), I'm going to offer the anecdote that religious people are just as sexual as non-religious people. They just won't admit to it openly or on surveys.

artificial 5y ago
The religious families are extremely small on average /s
javert 5y ago
I'm sorry, but there are tons of young people from religious or conservative families who wait until marriage to have sex and marry young, and/or don't begin their sexual exploration until well into college. Your anecdotal point notwithstanding. All human beings are equally sexual in terms of their drive and interest, but religion can and does alter psychology and behavior. There are places where religion is common but isn't taken that seriously, and then there are places were it's common and it is taken very seriously. Sounds like your school was the former and that's fine. It doesn't preclude the existence of the latter.
- bmarquez 5y ago
  > I'm sorry, but there are tons of young people from religious or conservative families who wait until marriage to have sex and marry young The parent poster implied that people were highly bound by their religion; I simply offered a counterexample. I am not saying that abstinence until marriage never happens. > and/or don't begin their sexual exploration until well into college This is not relevant since the teaching is abstinence until marriage, not abstinence until college.
  - javert 5y ago
    > I simply offered a counterexample. That isn't true. You offered a counterargument. > This is not relevant since the teaching is abstinence until marriage, not abstinence until college. A common effect of religious influence is delayed sexual exploration (i.e., later than what's natural given human biological development). The fact that you need this to be explained to you shows that you aren't aware of the phenomenon we're discussing. It's something that's very hard to understand if you haven't lived it.
Kye 5y ago
I've heard of all the kinds of concepts they invent to have sex while saying they didn't. They'll show up as untainted by impure thoughts and behavior in surveys, but they're having it. One recurring thing in particular: religious men who have sex with men and consider themselves abstinent/faithful to their wives because "it doesn't count."