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Right, I think the title should be something closer to "Don't point out something wrong to make yourself feel valuable/smart/etc". Obviously in lots of contexts
by blacksmith_tb 5y ago
Right, I think the title should be something closer to "Don't point out something wrong to make yourself feel valuable/smart/etc". Obviously in lots of contexts you do need point it out immediately (the server is down, your neighbor's house is on fire) but when it's just giving feedback, it's good to be helpful (even then there are times when tough love is required, I don't feel bad about pointing out when a mistake would have terrible consequences if it shipped).
- TheOtherHobbes 5y agoI think there are status plays, and there are quality plays. Which is which depends on the culture. The motivation is completely different - one is parasitic and narcissistic, one is constructive - but they can look and feel very similar, especially to those on the receiving end. I strongly suspect orgs tend towards a status culture unless carefully steered towards quality. I haven't worked out what the full secret is, but it may have something to do with strongly valuing and respecting skills and input outside of reviews, so specific criticisms aren't experienced as part of a consistent pattern of devaluation.