IMO love is the thing that remains after you stop being blinded by lust, novelty, etc. Love is quite boring, hardly the most stimulating thing in a relationshi

IMO love is the thing that remains after you stop being blinded by lust, novelty, etc. Love is quite boring, hardly the most stimulating thing in a relationship, almost the dullest thing because it’s the force that keeps you together through the pits. The feeling of emotional security, someone to care for / be cared for by. The reason it takes a longer time to fall in love than wanting to bang is because you need the previous qualities to appear, peak and then wither to notice it. Old people aren’t all going at it like knives, familial love is pretty mundane, even the love people have for pets is not very exciting. But that is the essence, the ecstasy of divine tedium.