> One of the most effective engineers I worked with spent her first month here very intentionally taking every single one of her new co-workers out to coffee I

> One of the most effective engineers I worked with spent her first month here very intentionally taking every single one of her new co-workers out to coffee I worked with someone who did this (lunch instead of coffee) and was singularly despised by everyone because he was also a deranged, compulsive liar. Not that plying me with food & drink is bad; it's just pointless. Somewhat worse is team-building Mandatory Fun Day foolishness. It definitely helps to actually talk regularly and communicate about the work that you're doing, in a rational, sensible way. But too many people think, "Oh if I force them to make friends, they'll somehow start agreeing about everything because they're friends!"