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The problem is when you know someone contacted you because of their 'system'. I feel less compelled to reply. It feels more that the person is doing their chore
by andersonmvd 5y ago
The problem is when you know someone contacted you because of their 'system'. I feel less compelled to reply. It feels more that the person is doing their chores and you are just helping them to get the task done. Somewhat similar because people only reminded of you because facebook displayed on their timeline that it was your birthday. No right or wrong here, but when it's not genuine it's not genuine and period.
- DamnInteresting 5y agoAnother way to look at it: This hypothetical person created their 'system' because they valued their connections enough to establish a way to maintain them. And they specifically added you to the finite list of people they don't want to lose touch with. So it is genuine—it's just a reminder, we all need reminders once in a while. Now, if the person isn't actually your friend, but a professional contact (e.g., recruiter) who just hopes to extract value from you someday, then those guys can go jump in a lake.