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It's not clear why would anybody try to force a communication when there is no common interest, project, or actually any reason to communicate. It always looks

by Mikho 5y ago

It's not clear why would anybody try to force a communication when there is no common interest, project, or actually any reason to communicate. It always looks fake and inevitably ends with discomfort. It's worth staying in touch if there is a topic to discuss, or mutual interest. If the whole routine is just for your own mental comfort that you are a "good" socialite, it's worth thinking twice before contacting yet another person out of the blue. It's better to just go to a bar and meet new people instead of trying to return to the past.

TuringNYC 5y ago
I would totally disagree. I can think of two dozen folks I would love to catch up with (and I'm sure they would agree) but between work projects, kids, family you keep losing track of time. The real proof of this is when I run into them on the commuter train, we sit together and have vibrant conversations. Or you run into them on the street, and next thing you know you've got an active SMS thread going...until the kids have some issue at school and now you're distracted.
avgcorrection 5y ago
Look at these assumptions that you just inserted: 1. No “common interest, project ...” 2. You just want to be a “"good" socialite” 3. “Forced”: A lot of social interactions are “forced” in the sense that the conversation does not flow completely effortlessly so this applies generally As to (1): one can have common interests etc. even though one does not see each other regularly. As to (2): this is just a contentless insult towards people who like to socialize, similar to the “loner” insult which is aimed towards people who prefer to be more solitary, so this can be disregarded. Really dumbfounding to see so many people in this thread who think it’s unnatural to keep in touch with people by way of things like the telephone.

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It's not clear why would anybody try to force a communication when there is no common interest, project, or actually any reason to communicate. It always looks

by Mikho 5y ago

TuringNYC 5y ago
I would totally disagree. I can think of two dozen folks I would love to catch up with (and I'm sure they would agree) but between work projects, kids, family you keep losing track of time. The real proof of this is when I run into them on the commuter train, we sit together and have vibrant conversations. Or you run into them on the street, and next thing you know you've got an active SMS thread going...until the kids have some issue at school and now you're distracted.
avgcorrection 5y ago
Look at these assumptions that you just inserted: 1. No “common interest, project ...” 2. You just want to be a “"good" socialite” 3. “Forced”: A lot of social interactions are “forced” in the sense that the conversation does not flow completely effortlessly so this applies generally As to (1): one can have common interests etc. even though one does not see each other regularly. As to (2): this is just a contentless insult towards people who like to socialize, similar to the “loner” insult which is aimed towards people who prefer to be more solitary, so this can be disregarded. Really dumbfounding to see so many people in this thread who think it’s unnatural to keep in touch with people by way of things like the telephone.