> But the other lens to apply here is “how at risk am I of never talking to this person again if I don’t manage to say something, however simple, at least <once

> But the other lens to apply here is “how at risk am I of never talking to this person again if I don’t manage to say something, however simple, at least <once a year>?” There may be folks in your life with whom your relationship is threatened if you don’t consciously make an effort, or if you don’t have a system like this to help you. But do you really need to build a system to talk to people once a year? Just reviewing your contact list on Christmas is going to achieve the same thing, and I bet it doesn't give off as weird vibes. Another issue is that, if after 20 years, you've only managed to contact people once a year, I don't think any system is going to save that relationship.