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> The biggest reason I don't maintain contact with people from my past is I was a much worse person in my past and I'm either embarrassed about my behavior or c
by cyborgx7 5y ago
> The biggest reason I don't maintain contact with people from my past is I was a much worse person in my past and I'm either embarrassed about my behavior or concerned that my shittiness is what led to our relationship in the first place.
Perfect summary. The people I'm still in contact with are those that grew into better people together with me.
- ljm 5y agoI like to think I chose depth over breadth. I can count my real friends on one hand and I feel like we have deep and meaningful friendships. They're people who I've been through some shit with, or people who I'd be prepared to go through some shit with if it came to it. Everyone else is someone who can come and go. How long are they around for? Who knows, it's just a temporary crossing of paths that feels nice while it lasts. I couldn't maintain a connect with hundreds of people unless fate crossed our paths again. But, you know, even those deep connections might be temporary, just on a longer timeframe. If one connection faded then perhaps there'd be room for a new one.
- Jeff_Brown 5y agoI'm like you -- but for people who I was good friends with years ago and lost touch with, I usually find that we immediately hit it off great if we connect somewhere in person. For this reason I'm optimmistic about the possibility of maintaining a wider net.