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And yet, after 20 years of that approach, you might have lost some people you’d have a really difficult time trying to get back. If I may, it seems like you’re
by mattcwilson 5y ago
And yet, after 20 years of that approach, you might have lost some people you’d have a really difficult time trying to get back.
If I may, it seems like you’re assuming “if I only talk to this person once a year, it’s not worth it. Especially if I have to contrive some basis for reaching out.” If it’s that difficult, and that low value, sure, don’t bother.
But the other lens to apply here is “how at risk am I of never talking to this person again if I don’t manage to say something, however simple, at least <once a year>?” There may be folks in your life with whom your relationship is threatened if you don’t consciously make an effort, or if you don’t have a system like this to help you.
- gjulianm 5y ago> But the other lens to apply here is “how at risk am I of never talking to this person again if I don’t manage to say something, however simple, at least <once a year>?” There may be folks in your life with whom your relationship is threatened if you don’t consciously make an effort, or if you don’t have a system like this to help you. But do you really need to build a system to talk to people once a year? Just reviewing your contact list on Christmas is going to achieve the same thing, and I bet it doesn't give off as weird vibes. Another issue is that, if after 20 years, you've only managed to contact people once a year, I don't think any system is going to save that relationship.
- p_l 5y agoSeeing at how my handling of contacting people and not only goes? I'd like that system, enhanced with direct mental prodding, too.