> If there [sic] were friends... He'd miss contacting them. Interesting! It looks like you are indirectly articulating something about your personal value syst

> If there [sic] were friends... He'd miss contacting them. Interesting! It looks like you are indirectly articulating something about your personal value system and how you express and/or receive caring. Are you familiar with the Five Love Languages [0] idea? The bosic concept (and book) are tailored for couples and couples counseling, but it generalizes in obvious ways to platonic relationships. Essentially, it posits that everyone expresses caring and seeks expressions of caring in specific ways, so called "languages". It's entirely possible---probable in fact!---that the ways in which you personally express caring don't match up with the kinds of expressions that make your friend (or lover) feel most cared for. YMMV, but I've personally found this idea to difuse a lot of "judgemental" feelings towards others, especially in close relationships. [0]:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages