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It's completely and utterly superficial. You just cannot stay in touch with hundreds of people - it's not possible, unless you are doing so superficially and tr
by alexb_ 5y ago
It's completely and utterly superficial. You just cannot stay in touch with hundreds of people - it's not possible, unless you are doing so superficially and treating "friends" as "things I need to check up on so I don't lose a node to a network of people that might be helpful to me".
Completely maxed out, humans can only have about 150 friends[1]. Trying to have more is just not being genuine. And think about the other side of this - what if you learned someone you thought actually cared about you, or that you actually considered a friend, was using a fucking automated system to "stay in touch". It's sociopath behavior.
[1]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number
- kzisme 5y agoThanks for that link! I was trying to remember what the number/theory was called.
- throwit1q2e3r 5y agoI would be happy that they valued me enough to add to their automation, and I would probably set up some automation to remind me to talk to them, and we would be automation buddies. Sounds a lot more fun than the likely alternative, that we never talk to each other again.
- mlatu 5y ago> It's sociopath behavior. You say that out of the privilege of neurotypicallity. "Sociopaths" (as you seem to call people who use this or similar approaches for keeping in touch) also need to live their lives. Alternatively, is it your opinion they should be all locked up and put away with?