3 ms·

For so long we were (and still are) called a human resource, whole departments and studies devoted for human resource management. Treating people like assest fi

For so long we were (and still are) called a human resource, whole departments and studies devoted for human resource management. Treating people like assest fits here.

MrYellowP 5y ago
Doesn't make it okay. At all. "Human resources" is dehumanizing. Treating people like assets is dehumanizing. If I told my friends that I had software reminding me of contacting them, they'd consider that we're not actually friends, because friends don't need to be reminded of friends. When there's no bond reminding me, then they're not friends. One cares about friends. When you forget about them, then you're not actually caring.
- Aeolos 5y ago
  It appears that you feel strongly about this and that is ok. I would only ask you to please be kind to people who do not share your experiences, social skills or background, e.g. introverts, people suffering from social anxiety, people who are on the spectrum or have ADHD... Hundreds of millions of people, who are fully cable of caring, loving and having close friends, yet have trouble maintaining friendships not because they are bad friends, but because their brains and emotions work differently through no choice or fault of their own. If such a tool can help someone maintain a close friendship that would otherwise have fizzled, then that tool has made the world a slightly better place. I don't expect this to change your opinion, but it might be useful to hear a different perspective.
- kortilla 5y ago
  This lame take is like claiming a birthday gift is meaningless because someone used a calendar reminder. Some people have busy lives but still have many friends (especially ones spread around geographically as you get older). It’s normal adult behavior to forget to contact them for months. > When there's no bond reminding me, then they're not friends. This sounds like some obsessive behavior. I think you may have a much higher bar for friendship than most people do. I have 20-30 people I would consider strong enough friends to have them stay in my house for a weekend on short notice (to give you an idea of trust level here). I contact many of them no more than once every couple of months only when a shared interest reminds me of them. > One cares about friends. When you forget about them, then you're not actually caring. That’s not how that works. At least it doesn’t match the definition of “caring”. It sounds more like “obsessing”.

For so long we were (and still are) called a human resource, whole departments and studies devoted for human resource management. Treating people like assest fits here.

MrYellowP 5y ago

Doesn't make it okay. At all. "Human resources" is dehumanizing. Treating people like assets is dehumanizing. If I told my friends that I had software reminding me of contacting them, they'd consider that we're not actually friends, because friends don't need to be reminded of friends. When there's no bond reminding me, then they're not friends. One cares about friends. When you forget about them, then you're not actually caring.

Aeolos 5y ago
It appears that you feel strongly about this and that is ok. I would only ask you to please be kind to people who do not share your experiences, social skills or background, e.g. introverts, people suffering from social anxiety, people who are on the spectrum or have ADHD... Hundreds of millions of people, who are fully cable of caring, loving and having close friends, yet have trouble maintaining friendships not because they are bad friends, but because their brains and emotions work differently through no choice or fault of their own. If such a tool can help someone maintain a close friendship that would otherwise have fizzled, then that tool has made the world a slightly better place. I don't expect this to change your opinion, but it might be useful to hear a different perspective.
kortilla 5y ago
This lame take is like claiming a birthday gift is meaningless because someone used a calendar reminder. Some people have busy lives but still have many friends (especially ones spread around geographically as you get older). It’s normal adult behavior to forget to contact them for months. > When there's no bond reminding me, then they're not friends. This sounds like some obsessive behavior. I think you may have a much higher bar for friendship than most people do. I have 20-30 people I would consider strong enough friends to have them stay in my house for a weekend on short notice (to give you an idea of trust level here). I contact many of them no more than once every couple of months only when a shared interest reminds me of them. > One cares about friends. When you forget about them, then you're not actually caring. That’s not how that works. At least it doesn’t match the definition of “caring”. It sounds more like “obsessing”.