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If I read a post on my friend’s blog exposing that their occasional texts had genesis in an automation and not genuine interest I would try very hard to not tal

If I read a post on my friend’s blog exposing that their occasional texts had genesis in an automation and not genuine interest I would try very hard to not talk to that person Unsubscribe, please

admjs 5y ago
I’d say that the genesis is a genuine interest in keeping in touch, automation is managing the process. I get behind on messages with my closest friends/family, and then I have a large network of professional/semi-personal relationships to maintain. I empathise why the OP would do this.
H8crilA 5y ago
I trust you don't use a calendar to keep track of birthdays, otherwise people will try very hard not to talk to you.
- MrYellowP 5y ago
  Implying that forgetting a date and forgetting a person are equivalent.
  - deleted 5y ago
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  - watwut 5y ago
    The system is not solving the "I forgot this person exists" issue. It is solving the "nothing prompts me to contact this person without having reason to" issue.
    - p_l 5y ago
      Or "nothing overcomes issues that say do not contact, you're not worth their time"
  - thrav 5y ago
    When you have ADHD, things often only come to mind via triggers, and many people in the tech community have ADHD.
- camillomiller 5y ago
  - p_l 5y ago
    I have read the article top to bottom... and yes, it's relatable, comparable, it leaves me with envy that I despite numerous attempts I haven't managed to build a reliable system like that and turn it into a habit. In no way do I feel it makes any of the connection cheap.
renewiltord 5y ago
Huh, fascinating difference between people. Personally, the fact that my friends use a calendar event to remember my birthday and some of them have an earlier event to remember to plan something for me makes me happy. They precommitted to this act of caring and built it into their workflow so it wouldn’t be missed! I love it. People are so different in our attitudes to life. It reminds me of the Calendly snafu from earlier.

If I read a post on my friend’s blog exposing that their occasional texts had genesis in an automation and not genuine interest I would try very hard to not talk to that person Unsubscribe, please

admjs 5y ago

I’d say that the genesis is a genuine interest in keeping in touch, automation is managing the process. I get behind on messages with my closest friends/family, and then I have a large network of professional/semi-personal relationships to maintain. I empathise why the OP would do this.

H8crilA 5y ago

I trust you don't use a calendar to keep track of birthdays, otherwise people will try very hard not to talk to you.

MrYellowP 5y ago
Implying that forgetting a date and forgetting a person are equivalent.
- deleted 5y ago
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- watwut 5y ago
  The system is not solving the "I forgot this person exists" issue. It is solving the "nothing prompts me to contact this person without having reason to" issue.
  - p_l 5y ago
    Or "nothing overcomes issues that say do not contact, you're not worth their time"
- thrav 5y ago
  When you have ADHD, things often only come to mind via triggers, and many people in the tech community have ADHD.
camillomiller 5y ago
- p_l 5y ago
  I have read the article top to bottom... and yes, it's relatable, comparable, it leaves me with envy that I despite numerous attempts I haven't managed to build a reliable system like that and turn it into a habit. In no way do I feel it makes any of the connection cheap.

renewiltord 5y ago

Huh, fascinating difference between people. Personally, the fact that my friends use a calendar event to remember my birthday and some of them have an earlier event to remember to plan something for me makes me happy. They precommitted to this act of caring and built it into their workflow so it wouldn’t be missed! I love it. People are so different in our attitudes to life. It reminds me of the Calendly snafu from earlier.