Yeah, I actually lean towards openness too (though I once had to give up on an exciting job offer because I naively anchored the salary discussion with my previ

Yeah, I actually lean towards openness too (though I once had to give up on an exciting job offer because I naively anchored the salary discussion with my previous government-salary-band-for-a-high-school-dropout, instead of just not answering). But it's gotta be a free choice; someone demanding it of you, as a supposed norm, is being pushy.