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You're creating one big false dichotomy. This notion that you either focus every bit of your being on your career or otherwise be a wage slave is absurd. Having

You're creating one big false dichotomy. This notion that you either focus every bit of your being on your career or otherwise be a wage slave is absurd. Having a strong community around you is an incredible financial tailwind, beyond the fact that it is just a generally a positive thing and makes your life emotionally richer.

alar44 5y ago
I didn't say that at all. Putting effort into maintaining a social circle has greatly diminishing returns as you get older. It's just a fact of life. Priorities change as our age, and if they don't, you'll find yourself a 30+ yr old child. Social energy should shift more towards personal growth as you get older.
- UncleMeat 5y ago
  I’ve found it to be the opposite. Almost all of my friends in my 30s I made in my 20s. Being married is a huge boon to socialization and that happened due to socialization in my 20s.
- helloworld11 5y ago
  All the opposite. the effort you put into keeping a social circle of quality friends and acquaintances in your 30s and beyond can be extremely rich in terms of pleasure, social activities, and even work or business connections, and there's nothing whatsoever about being older that makes you a "child" if you actively cultivate irreplaceable time with good friends. Nothing about cultivating and keeping friendships in your later years stops you from pursuing rich personal interests either. It sometimes even achieves the opposite and nurtures rich experiences or interesting projects. We are fundamentally, innately social animals, and that extends to more than just family and work circles. To each their own, but your view is snidely dismissive of an enormous source of happiness in so many people's lives.
- otikik 5y ago
  > Social energy should shift more towards personal growth as you get older. Dude. Those two are the same thing.

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You're creating one big false dichotomy. This notion that you either focus every bit of your being on your career or otherwise be a wage slave is absurd. Having

by conjecTech 5y ago

alar44 5y ago
I didn't say that at all. Putting effort into maintaining a social circle has greatly diminishing returns as you get older. It's just a fact of life. Priorities change as our age, and if they don't, you'll find yourself a 30+ yr old child. Social energy should shift more towards personal growth as you get older.
- UncleMeat 5y ago
  I’ve found it to be the opposite. Almost all of my friends in my 30s I made in my 20s. Being married is a huge boon to socialization and that happened due to socialization in my 20s.
- helloworld11 5y ago
  All the opposite. the effort you put into keeping a social circle of quality friends and acquaintances in your 30s and beyond can be extremely rich in terms of pleasure, social activities, and even work or business connections, and there's nothing whatsoever about being older that makes you a "child" if you actively cultivate irreplaceable time with good friends. Nothing about cultivating and keeping friendships in your later years stops you from pursuing rich personal interests either. It sometimes even achieves the opposite and nurtures rich experiences or interesting projects. We are fundamentally, innately social animals, and that extends to more than just family and work circles. To each their own, but your view is snidely dismissive of an enormous source of happiness in so many people's lives.
- otikik 5y ago
  > Social energy should shift more towards personal growth as you get older. Dude. Those two are the same thing.