I expect it's a temporary rut. I vaguely remember a lull around your age. But I just kept living life, and it passed. I started my third career (as a software

I expect it's a temporary rut. I vaguely remember a lull around your age. But I just kept living life, and it passed. I started my third career (as a software developer) at age 38 just before getting married for the first time at 40 and moving half way across the country. I still had two failed startups (and a successful side project) ahead of me. Almost 20 years later I still frequently go to festivals and local live music shows. I'm taking some time off to partake in SXSW next month. I have a stack of books I can't get to. I'm still improving my guitar and singing skills, a lifelong hobby. I've made a bunch of new friends lately with a group that shares some interests. We have regular get togethers, like karaoke Fridays, gun range trips (a new hobby for me), and just hanging out. They are all coming to my Super Bowl part this Sunday. Most of the group is 30s-40s. I go to discussion meetups once a month or so. I'm not saying all this to brag about myself but show you that most of your active years lie ahead. A few concrete suggestions: 1. If you spend a lot of time playing video games, stop. It's the world's greatest time suck. 2. Curtail porn. 3. Find meetups that interest you. 4. If your BMI is above high twenties, get it down. Keto and daily walks/hiking/swimming does it for me. 5. Consider getting a dog. It's great for fighting loneliness and can help attract dates. 6. Study stoicism. It's the OG self help. (I'm just starting this now. I think it will help a lot as I move into old age.) 7. Keep spending less than you make. You're in a pretty good spot savings wise. Keep it up.