Is your feedback that if I see something incendiary the worst possible thing I can do is counter it, but instead I should downvote, flag, or simply ignore? It

Is your feedback that if I see something incendiary the worst possible thing I can do is counter it, but instead I should downvote, flag, or simply ignore? It wasn’t obvious to me my comment was furthering a flame war, but if the above heuristic is a good one I will try for that. I get frustrated when I leave 500 good comments only to get dinged for an outlier.