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As two-kid dad, I definitely agree that the time, energy, and cost of delivering and raising kids is HUGE. It's not something that you should undervalue at all.
by grvdrm 5y ago
As two-kid dad, I definitely agree that the time, energy, and cost of delivering and raising kids is HUGE. It's not something that you should undervalue at all.
But I think we have this unfortunate habit of severely underweighting the start process and things that aren't obvious.
You probably experience lots of stress over the span of raising a kid (or more). Other people see that in the classic screaming-kid seemingly-helpless-parent visual. You may also experience that same stress, perhaps cumulatively more, just from the start because it's (1) VERY stressful when it doesn't work, and (2) a situation that can drag on for what feels like forever.
So, everyone commiserates over work it is to raise a kid but few people talk openly or at all about how hard it is to start the process of having a kid.
- rdtwo 5y agoThe toolbox for doing it sucks too. The public school and childcare infrastructure is absolute shit and private is an expensive crapshoot
- grvdrm 5y agoThat sounds like the toolbox when your kid is born. You are probably right as it pertains to the US. I’m talking about pre-birth part.
- fouc 5y agoThat really depends on the country, the smart move may require relocating to raise kids elsewhere.
- rdtwo 5y agoSome jobs are unfortunately linked to areas where it’s really expensive to raise kids.
- jack_pp 5y agoI've just looked at this recently, boarding school in Spain is around 12k per year
- rdtwo 5y agoIn the USA 12k buys you a half day of care or possibly a religious school if you are already a member
- jack_pp 5y agoThat's why I mentioned boarding schools, you don't have to live there to send your kids to it and also it might be good for them, nurture independence and a lot of experience with a foreign culture while also giving you flexibility and easing the burden of child raising.