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If most women are optimising unemployed men out of dating / marriage then men being unemployed has far more significant consequences for men than women. Women a
by dlsa 5y ago
If most women are optimising unemployed men out of dating / marriage then men being unemployed has far more significant consequences for men than women. Women are all about equality for access to employment but then complain that there aren't enough suitable men with jobs. The more a woman earns the smaller her dating pool becomes. Perhaps she could be more flexible in partner selection? There are outliers but the data suggests women are very traditional in very particular ways. Whereas the situation for men has been to marry down. But no such expectation for women. Its an interesting little bit of hypocracy.
There's a heap of complexity around this. Society needs to shift and work this out. Its only been around a century. The answers are not so simple.
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- bradlys 5y ago> The more a woman earns the smaller her dating pool becomes. Perhaps she could be more flexible in partner selection? This will take more than a generation to solve. Culturally this is not acceptable for women. Women are looked down upon for dating men who make less than them. For the next 20-30 years, women will continue to shame themselves and others for dating men of “lower” or even equal value.
- sokoloff 5y ago> Perhaps she could be more flexible in partner selection? My experience suggests that people are rarely more flexible than they need to be to meet their goals. And: why should they be? This results in some amount of assortive mating (of the social, rather than genetic, variety), but I don’t see a likely path out of this. It’s the human version of “birds of a feather”.