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This is such a weird take. You really don't need to be all that special or beautiful to find a partner, I've always been a stocky guy all my life and I never ha

This is such a weird take. You really don't need to be all that special or beautiful to find a partner, I've always been a stocky guy all my life and I never had a real issue finding sexual partners and now I'm happily married with kids. Get yourself a personality, don't be weird, dress decently and talk to people. That's really all you need, no matter what you look like there's someone out there that's into it. Don't overcomplicate simple things.

rmellow 5y ago
At the height of a loneliness epidemic, it's hard to get a personality and talk to people. Don't get me wrong, your conclusion is spot on. Getting there is the hard part. Another factor is we live in a period in time where we have so much choice on how to spend our time, products that are personalized to each of our own tastes, that creates sparsity of shared experiences. No longer is there a movie like Star Wars, that you could throw a stick and find someone who shares that experience. Now unless you're suckling from the teat of mainstream media, you need to go out of your way to find someone who shares your taste in film, music, art, games and ideas. I'm honestly surprised there hasn't been an experiment adding a social component to Netflix.
- randomdata 5y ago
  > you need to go out of your way to find someone who shares your taste in film, music, art, games and ideas. You may as well just be with yourself at that point. Someone else bringing new experiences that you don't share, to learn and involve yourself in going forward, is where interest is found.
guskel 5y ago
The thing about these kinds of comments is that it's impossible to know why it worked for you, why you're specific situations worked out different. So many men try all your advice and still struggle greatly.
Gwarzo 5y ago
This really is it - all you have to do is consistently be around the opposite sex while being generally likeable and care about your appearance. Eventually SOMEONE is going to find you attractive.
- rdtwo 5y ago
  Yeah exactly this you just need to put in time and effort.
epolanski 5y ago
Spot on, I would also add, have a purpose in life, be honest, practice self discipline to achieve your goals.

rmellow 5y ago

At the height of a loneliness epidemic, it's hard to get a personality and talk to people. Don't get me wrong, your conclusion is spot on. Getting there is the hard part. Another factor is we live in a period in time where we have so much choice on how to spend our time, products that are personalized to each of our own tastes, that creates sparsity of shared experiences. No longer is there a movie like Star Wars, that you could throw a stick and find someone who shares that experience. Now unless you're suckling from the teat of mainstream media, you need to go out of your way to find someone who shares your taste in film, music, art, games and ideas. I'm honestly surprised there hasn't been an experiment adding a social component to Netflix.

randomdata 5y ago
> you need to go out of your way to find someone who shares your taste in film, music, art, games and ideas. You may as well just be with yourself at that point. Someone else bringing new experiences that you don't share, to learn and involve yourself in going forward, is where interest is found.

guskel 5y ago

The thing about these kinds of comments is that it's impossible to know why it worked for you, why you're specific situations worked out different. So many men try all your advice and still struggle greatly.

Gwarzo 5y ago

This really is it - all you have to do is consistently be around the opposite sex while being generally likeable and care about your appearance. Eventually SOMEONE is going to find you attractive.

rdtwo 5y ago
Yeah exactly this you just need to put in time and effort.

epolanski 5y ago

Spot on, I would also add, have a purpose in life, be honest, practice self discipline to achieve your goals.