I'll add 2 things here in the spirit of the discussion. One, I dabble in amateur fiction writing as a hobby. And I'm a man, but a big percentage of my readers

I'll add 2 things here in the spirit of the discussion. One, I dabble in amateur fiction writing as a hobby. And I'm a man, but a big percentage of my readers are female. One thing I've been hit on the head with repeatedly, when getting feedback from female readers, is how often how sensitive they can be about the exact choice of words or phrasing I use. My 1st draft will be a certain way. After getting feedback from female readers, I often have to revise the text to tweak the words and phrases in it, to make it less distasteful or alienating for them. Note... this is NOT me "perceiving" it to be this way -- instead it is based on what happens factually. Over the years since 1st getting bitten by this (decades now) I've learned enough about the gender differences in reading perception that it doesn't bother me as much anymore, and I can more often make my 1st draft such that it lacks these kinds of "gender perception difference bombs". Basically, as a fiction writer, you must be VERY aware of gender differences, at scale, in order to produce the most popular final draft. Any experienced writer will tell you this. Two... I got into the Wordle playing thing, and in recent weeks there was a solution word which caused a minor kerfluffle among fans. I was on Twitter one day and stumbled into threads where lots of women were complaining about that day's solution word. Some said it was soooo bad, that when a female player would only hear indirectly about how icky the word was on Twitter -- without literally seeing the answer -- they could often guess what it was, in 1 attempt. just 1 attempt! And they would post screenshots and result shareouts to prove they could solve it in 1 attempt. The word was "moist". MOIST! I remember it when it happened because for me, for whatever reason, it had taken like 5 tries to solve it, with no outside social media hints. Yet lots of women were nailing in 1 or 2 tries. So... never tell me that males and females are identical or somehow "equal" when it comes to "neural language wiring" or at least not in their reading perception biases. We are different. In broadstrokes. At scale. Reliably.