Define "successful career in tech" for yourself, then ask if that is what you're doing. For me, I want to put my attention onto helping others, in this case by

Define "successful career in tech" for yourself, then ask if that is what you're doing. For me, I want to put my attention onto helping others, in this case by using computers, data, and statistics. I also put attention onto playing music for others, listening to their problems, and cooking for them. There's no need to one-up anyone if your goal is simply to help others. And btw, it's not bad to spend attention on yourself, it's good to improve your fitness, nutrition, sleep, quality of life, and your own satisfaction and joy. There's nothing wrong with a Giver Giving to Themselves, which will enhance their overall health + giving abilities.