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Probably unpopular opinion: men having it tough is actually a good thing for men, if you make the most of it. Yes, in modern times as a man, you pretty much don
by uejfiweun 5y ago
Probably unpopular opinion: men having it tough is actually a good thing for men, if you make the most of it. Yes, in modern times as a man, you pretty much don't have any programs specifically designed to benefit you. And yes, men get shat on by pretty much every corner of society. But it's still possible to succeed in these conditions, and some people most definitely do. And those who were able to find their way and make it in a very unfriendly system tend to be extremely competent, not just intellectually but socially and emotionally as well. It's that old saying - "hard times make strong men," yada yada. Having just gone through the whole school process, I am very confident in my ability to solve a problem / achieve a goal on my own, and I don't need some special program or exception to the rules in order to succeed.
- ketzo 5y agoMen – and people – should not need to be exceptional just to be happy. Hard times make a few strong men and a lot of very, very miserable ones.
- jbay808 5y ago> I am very confident in my ability to solve a problem / achieve a goal on my own, and I don't need some special program or exception to the rules in order to succeed. Picture a distribution, like a bell curve or something. The programs are meant for the side of that distribution that need it. You can talk about how the other side of the distribution doesn't need the help, but don't lose sight of the fact that many do.
- TrackerFF 5y agoNot too different from the "I earn $xxxk/year, and don't need any help from welfare programs. Why do we even have them? They make people lazy" crowd.
- skinkestek 5y agoJust as long as you know you have succeeded in spite of it all and do not buy into the "almost failed despite being wildly privileged" idea that gets pushed. (To be clear: I am wildly privileged to live in a Western country now instead of living almost anywhere else at any other time. I'm also generally happy to be a strong and healthy male. My thoughts are best best explained by the fact that 1. all else being equal I'd prefer to recruit a woman rather than a man to the company I work for because that gives me more "social credit" at work 2. Boys systematically do better on anonymous tests, at least in the western world.)
- hackerfromthefu 5y agoYup you've just shown equality of outcome, not equality of opportunity. Obviously this de-motivates men from a system stacked against then.