Most suffering is unnecessary, that is true; there is, nonetheless, a level of suffering that drives me to improve myself to avoid it - and I suspect this may b

Most suffering is unnecessary, that is true; there is, nonetheless, a level of suffering that drives me to improve myself to avoid it - and I suspect this may be universal. All things in moderation. Young children, for instance, can suffer terrible emotional distress when they do not get their way. One can be compassionate for that suffering while recognising they must go through it to learn and grow. If suffering is the gap between our expectations and reality, necessary suffering is the amount required to calibrate our expectations sufficiently accurately.